[mymartianromance]

So, I'm eighteen years old. Yesterday, my parents surprised me a new bed to replace the bed I've been sleeping on for the last 10-11 years, then on the way home my mom mentioned that she was going to remodel my room while I was away on senior trip. I've been crying on and off since about 10:30 last night (once we got the new bed assembled) because this bed isn't my old one (obviously) and it lacks the storage space the last one had.

I basically have to suck it up and deal with this new bed even though I hate it, especially since it was already in my parents head that I needed a new bed without consenting me (the person who actually going to sleep on it).

[TishaBuv]

It makes sense that you were also attached to it because you grew up on it. Maybe if you get to pick out new sheets, you'll feel like making it your own.

Do you mean that you don't want a new bed because you are attached to the old one, or you don't mind a new one but hate the one they bought you? In either case, why cannot you talk to your parents about it?

[PandorasAquarium]

Can you talk to your parents about this? I know when I was about your age, my parents were in a massive upheaval of divorce, remarriage, and selling our home. I was 17 and leaving for college and basically felt homeless. That is a bit more extreme, but I feel like I understand where you are coming from. You are at the cusp of adulthood. A whole lot of things are going to change and you will be making a lot of big decisions about your life ahead.

Your parents changing your room without your oversight, opinion, or approval inplies a lack of sensitivity for your feelings, as well as a diminishing of your maturity. It is practically infantalizing.

Perhaps you could talk to them about it, by thanking them for the thoughtful gesture and also explaining how it bothers you for them to dictate your space to you at your age. You could tell them that you would like to be a part of the decision making process. It not only shows maturity and sensitivity on your part, but also acknowledges the good intentions they probably have in doing this for you.

On another note, I totally get that attachment to things from your past. I'm just a hair too organized to be a hoarder. It was indescribably hard for me to "lose" my home when my parents remarried and moved. I felt adrift and homeless for a very long time. It really is the little things that bring us comfort.

[mymartianromance]

I think I'm also annoyed because they brought me a new bed despite the fact that I need a car and the fact that they complain about giving me money for example a high school sporting event. But have no problem paying for a bed that I don't need.

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[TerriLynn]

Definitely talk to your mom about not remodeling your room while you are away. This should be something you do if you want something done.

[mymartianromance]

Originally Posted by TerriLynn

Definitely talk to your mom about not remodeling your room while you are away. This should be something you do if you want something done.

If only it was that easy she'd just say that it's her house not mine and she can do whatever she wants to my room since its still attached to the house and on the property.

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[mymartianromance]

Well, I discovered the plastic things my bed is on keep falling over and the screws holding the frame are busted and aren't real shiny looking. and the bolts holding my old bed together looked better than these ones did after 17 years and this frame is what 3 days old. I don't think I'm crazy favoring my old bed rather than this one, this one might kill me.

[Thunder Bow]

That new bed will pitch, buck, and heave you right out the door! Can't you get the old one back??