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Old Mar 25, 2016, 01:03 AM
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This is something I need an opinion on.

I suffer from shame from a particular event associated with a love interest.I acted like quite a different person at that time . Also I suffer from shame attacks from even remotely sexual like I can't watch porn or I can't see someone else suffer from humiliation.
I recently figured out that I am a love addict and all the shame is my inner critic warning me about my love addiction.
I finally could connect the dots by recognizing this.Does anyone else feel this is a valid reason for my shame attacks? Does this make sense? I just need some reassurance to move on.
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Old Mar 25, 2016, 05:39 AM
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Do you have a therapist? I am not sure about love addiction

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Old Mar 25, 2016, 09:35 AM
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i've never heard of love addiction either, but infactuation, just plain love.obsession too. i know when i love i'm almost obsessed and i think all of us need to learn how to love again. love your neighbor as you love yourself.
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Old Mar 25, 2016, 10:04 AM
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You've touched on the issue that is the main thing causing me debilitating problems in life.

I don't really know where to begin to address what you're going through.

If you want to read my posts maybe you'll gain some insight.

Did something happen to you sexually that affected you?

For me, I had significant trauma that I think triggered this whole thing.

Anyway, I haven't figured my issue out and am just trying to cope.

If you'd like to discuss it more, I am here for you.
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Old Mar 25, 2016, 03:19 PM
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Do you have a therapist? I am not sure about love addiction

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I do have a therapist but she is not specialized in these areas and I'm searching for one who is.
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Old Mar 25, 2016, 03:33 PM
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You've touched on the issue that is the main thing causing me debilitating problems in life.

I don't really know where to begin to address what you're going through.

If you want to read my posts maybe you'll gain some insight.

Did something happen to you sexually that affected you?

For me, I had significant trauma that I think triggered this whole thing.

Anyway, I haven't figured my issue out and am just trying to cope.

If you'd like to discuss it more, I am here for you.


You are right.We do have similar issues. I am trying to get to the bottom of these shame attacks .I cannot find a therapist who is specializing in love addiction. What is your therapist take on your issues?? I feel like without getting to the bottom of these issues,I can never heal and I'm tired of feeling so shameful for little things.
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Old Mar 25, 2016, 11:57 PM
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What do you mean by "love addict"? I used to be religious, and that was my source of shame. Are you religious in any chance (or used to be)?
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Old Mar 26, 2016, 09:39 PM
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What do you mean by "love addict"? I used to be religious, and that was my source of shame. Are you religious in any chance (or used to be)?
I'm not that religious but I have a bit of abandonment issues.
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Old Mar 27, 2016, 01:44 AM
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Why is that? and what abandonment issues have anything to do with shame of watching porn?
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