[KayWable]

Sorry about this everyone. A lot of you might have seen my posts where most of them focus on abuse suffered at the hands of my therapist.
The emotional abuse has affected me badly and even more so since termination. I find myself going from extremely depressed to extremely angry. I know that I should just move on (as some have told me), but I am in emotional turmoil.

I left my ex therapist a nasty email and a few nasty voicemails saying I was so angry that "I'd f* him up if I ever saw him again". If he understands my pain and wishes to avoid causing me further damage he might ignore it. If however he feels threatened he might file a report against me.
Didn't mean to commit a crime. Was just angry and venting my frustration. My choice of words however might be interpreted differently ( I hope not. I never threatened him with nothing illegal or anything). I left one final message telling him that I was just angry and that I would cease the calls.
I have BPD and PTSD (not making excuses. Just stating).

Has anyone ever let their emotions get them into trouble? (not only asking about legal).
Hoping this will boil over. I need to just leave him alone even though he is getting away with making my life a living hell.

I hope this message is okay to put here.

[~Christina]

It happens .. T's deal with this..

It's good that you called back and just stated that you were angry and would not call again ..Now stick to that .. Just don't call back.. at all, ever..

I think the best thing you can do is look for a new T that can help you process the anger you feel towards your old T ..

Be kind to yourself .. anger is an emotion that needs to be felt and worked through.

Regarding the nasty messages you've sent, I don't think you have any reason to worry. Going to jail because of that? I don't think so.

But next time you feel like doing that, think of yourself first: how anxious are you going to feel after you send those messages? Is it really worth the trouble, even though the recipient deserves to hear/read everything you said/wrote?

I was reading another thread posted by you, about your previous T. I really feel for you.

My wife had one session with someone like that. Thankfully she spotted trouble ahead and never went back to that one.

One session only, one hour... and that T brought her to tears for all the wrong reasons, and that nearly made her lose all the progress she made by then. T went on to blame my wife for everything and telling her that she brought it all on herself and things like that...

That T is a nasty piece of work and last I heard of her she's still damaging more people because apparently there's nothing that can be done about it.

Can you just walk away from the situation?

[TishaBuv]

I had an embarrassing incident where someone sent a group email to dozens of people chastising me. I was not wrong, just had to deal with this nasty person who was out to get her way at all costs. I replied all, defending my actions and saying how I don't appreciate this person blasting me to everyone, and the head of this organization sent another email to everyone calling it an unfortunate exchange, which chastised and embarrassed me even more.

So, my point is, saying nothing that can ever be used against you is probably always best.

[KayWable]

Originally Posted by rcat

Can you just walk away from the situation?

It is hard to walk away after suffering such injustice and he keeps working and his employers ignore the situation (he's working for a public hospital).
I don't understand why no one would help me. I grew up with childhood abuse and that was part of the reason for my treatment, but he just used it against me.
I called for help with supervisors and hospital staff who turn a blind eye and protect or dismiss his actions.
Aren't they liable if anything happens to me?
I am trying so hard to cope. Maybe I will just write a complaint to the hospital board or to department of health and mental hygiene. That might get their attention.

Originally Posted by KayWable

It is hard to walk away after suffering such injustice and he keeps working and his employers ignore the situation (he's working for a public hospital).
I don't understand why no one would help me. I grew up with childhood abuse and that was part of the reason for my treatment, but he just used it against me.
I called for help with supervisors and hospital staff who turn a blind eye and protect or dismiss his actions.
Aren't they liable if anything happens to me?
I am trying so hard to cope. Maybe I will just write a complaint to the hospital board or to department of health and mental hygiene. That might get their attention.

Of course they're always going to side with him and dismiss you. It's his word against yours, and I think you know who's word they're going to hear. Plus, he works there probably for years and have solid acquaintaces there, so you know how it goes... It's a corrupt old world we live in...

I think that writing a complaint (especially without substantial proof) is going to lead to absolutely nothing, unless someone over there who's not completely biased towards patients decides to investigate.

I'd say let it go and move on, but you can try Googling "emotionally abused by therapist" and get some advice from the resulting links.

Good luck.

[emijec]

i wouldnt contact him ever again. doing so i think would lead to a restraining order (civil) or a police report.. if it continues , a cop may show up talk to you and tell you to quit it.

[Refuse2Sink]

I highly doubt that you would ever spend one minute in jail over something like that. If you acted on the threat and psychically touched this person then you might face some consequences.

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Sometimes my emotions get the better of me. I can be irrational, loud, upset, ect. I say things I mean, and I say things I don't always mean. Sometimes I get myself in trouble because I have never been heard, so when something is important to me, I need to be heard. If I don't, I feel as empty and lost as I did during the abuse.

I would hope, given that your T was abusive, he would understand that you come from an angry, painful place. That you're standing on your own two feet and refusing to be his victim. He might not acknowledge your feelings, and his role in causing them, but being a T, I again would hope he goes home feeling like crap. If he wants to protect himself, he shouldn't take this further. If he does, continue to stand your ground. He's done the opposite of what he should have, and he shouldn't get away with it.

My abusers got away with everything and I know walking away from them was difficult, but trying to fill the gaps they caused has been harder. There is no way to walk away and feel nothing at all because there are emotions attached, you have every right to be angry, upset and to tell him exactly how he made you feel. Anger can prevent us from being rational, logical and polite; but in this situation, your anger let you express yourself rather than keeping it bottled up. You told him you were angry, he knows it now, and if he has any compassion at all, he'll leave the phone calls alone and won't take it any further.

I wish you all the best. x

[KayWable]

Hi Emijec!

I'm over it now. This was written months ago when the separation was fresh and the scars raw. I barely think about him and wonder to myself why I had been so "obsessed" to begin with. He wasn't that great of a person. Just another human with problems of his own who used me to gain some sort of control to feed his ego. The damage is done, but at least I no longer need to entertain myself thinking about or worrying for him. At least this experience showed me my weaknesses and how to be on alert for people who try to exploit me.

Anglo: Thanks for sharing your story and I do hope he has thought about his actions and corrected them.

[emijec]

I'm so glad that you're over t now and are above and beyond by that loser! my goal is to be where you are too. I recently got dumped and am now starting to figure out that this ex was kind of selfish. hopefully 2 months from now I can feel like you do.