Beside my shyness, I've spent my whole life focusing on education and career, and have avoided/ignored the social life completely. I ended up alone and lonely all the time, and since the social life requires one to experiment, in my age experimenting right now with others would be embarrassing. This imbalance in my life has brought to me depression, which reinforces my loneliness by isolating myself. Not just that, I feel I'm in a downward spiral that I will eventually lose everything I worked so hard for.

There comes a point and time in each of our lives when we have had enough that we step up to the plate and just do it. So just go for it... go outside for a walk, to the store, make small talk with people. And feel good about it. It is as simple as that, making up your mind that you will do it and then doing it. tc and blessings

Originally Posted by omegalamed

There comes a point and time in each of our lives when we have had enough that we step up to the plate and just do it. So just go for it... go outside for a walk, to the store, make small talk with people. And feel good about it. It is as simple as that, making up your mind that you will do it and then doing it. tc and blessings

Thanks Omegalamed, your posts are always appreciated. I'm trying, but it isn't easy for me.

[divine1966]

How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I was under impression you are quite young. Don't give up, we are never too old.

I know it's not easy to change work place but you mentioned you work totally alone in the office. Would working in a more vibrant place be a better idea? I honestly would have very hard time working in a quiet environment with no one to talk to. It sounds depressing for me ( I know others like it, I am just speaking for myself). Can you stay in the same field but go to a different environment?

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Originally Posted by divine1966

How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I was under impression you are quite young. Don't give up, we are never too old.

I know it's not easy to change work place but you mentioned you work totally alone in the office. Would working in a more vibrant place be a better idea? I honestly would have very hard time working in a quiet environment with no one to talk to. It sounds depressing for me ( I know others like it, I am just speaking for myself). Can you stay in the same field but go to a different environment?

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It depends on what you mean by "quite young"? How old is that? Some people told me I'm still young, but I don't see myself that way, especially with the lack of experiences in my life compared to my age.

It's depressing. But currently I have no other option. Actually, I'm in the mindset right now to just quit. I have no energy to do anything right now. I just need to put my thoughts into an email and send it. But I'm reluctant as I'm not sure how my life would be after that. I'm afraid of a worse life.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Wandering Soul

It depends on what you mean by "quite young"? How old is that? Some people told me I'm still young, but I don't see myself that way, especially with the lack of experiences in my life compared to my age.

It's depressing. But currently I have no other option. Actually, I'm in the mindset right now to just quit. I have no energy to do anything right now. I just need to put my thoughts into an email and send it. But I'm reluctant as I'm not sure how my life would be after that. I'm afraid of a worse life.

I wouldn't quit your job. Do you need it to pay bills among other things? If you need to take a break maybe you can take leave but don't quit. I would assume life without job would be way worse unless you are independently wealthy.

You sounded as you can't be older than in your 30s. But I might be wrong. You sound as a young person but then you say " in my age" as you are much older. It's not embarrassing at any age but I could see how it's harder at certain age like if you said you are 75.

I know people who completely switch their careers life styles and geographical location in pretty advanced age. It is not easy of course. But not too late

I do think you might benefit from s good therapist to run things by at least

Originally Posted by divine1966

I wouldn't quit your job. Do you need it to pay bills among other things? If you need to take a break maybe you can take leave but don't quit. I would assume life without job would be way worse unless you are independently wealthy.

You sounded as you can't be older than in your 30s. But I might be wrong. You sound as a young person but then you say " in my age" as you are much older. It's not embarrassing at any age but I could see how it's harder at certain age like if you said you are 75.

I know people who completely switch their careers life styles and geographical location in pretty advanced age. It is not easy of course. But not too late

I do think you might benefit from s good therapist to run things by at least

I'm not wealthy. I need a break but how to get a break without quitting? I used my vacations already, and I need a long break anyway.

When I said "in my age" I said it in the context of learning how to socialize. People learn this in their 20s or even before. I've spend my whole life between school/work and home. I just talked to my family basically. Emotionally I'm still not mature. I have very low threshold for frustration. I get upset easily.

[divine1966]

You might be able to take medical leave? A colleague of mine suffers from anxiety/ depression ( but more anxiety) and he had to take 3 months off last year ( per his psychiatrist), he is doing much better this year. If you are overwhelmed, seeing a professional might make it better. You never know unless you try. Most people can't quit their job no matter how hard it is. They'd end up on the street homeless and hungry. I can only see it if one is on disability or their spouse can/willing to support them. Please think it through before you quit. You won't even get unemployment if you quit. How will you pay your rent/mortgage??? Car? Phone?

I understand how work/school takes years out of ones life.

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It seems like you're burnt out from working. I used to go out with coworkers for a drink at the bars after work. I have no friends. The people I socialize with were only my classmates.

I began going to a psychiatrist and. Taking anti depressants and anti anxiety medications and seeing a therapist. All this after a huge incidence that changed my life forever. It was a good decision to go.

Dumb me I just quit mine. I have an interview this week but I don't wanna. I just want to rest and be free of stress but not having a busy day also stresses me out

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I'm burnt out of my life routine actually. My life has been the same for the last 6 years; basically from school/work to home, and vice versa.