[sinking]

I hate being stuck here, no money, 34yo living with parents, no boyfriend etc. while i see one after the other of my friends building up a family, proceeding well with careers. it drives me nuts. WHY AM I STUCK? IT REALLY HURTS ME SO MUCH. and i do have tried to change things but i always end up stuck here. I HATE IT AND ALL MY LIFE

[gayleggg]

It's okay to be at a different level of life from your peers. They may not be suffering from mental health issues. Be patient. Your time will come.

[1976kitchenfloor]

Originally Posted by sinking

I hate being stuck here, no money, 34yo living with parents, no boyfriend etc. while i see one after the other of my friends building up a family, proceeding well with careers. it drives me nuts. WHY AM I STUCK? IT REALLY HURTS ME SO MUCH. and i do have tried to change things but i always end up stuck here. I HATE IT AND ALL MY LIFE

In situations like this we always think we are the only one and no one else is the same place. We tend to look around and see others as being so much more brilliant with sunny lives and success after success.

Truth is that for many reasons lots of people your age are living at home with their parents. And that is true even for people who are not having to bravely deal with mental health issues.

Stop being so hard on yourself. Be kind and generous with yourself. Stop tallying up what you consider failures and start living life with a more open mind. You are a brave person who is dealing with issues that can be a heavy load. Give yourself some credit. ITs not easy. Its not fair. It is what it is and you have to be stronger and more honest and braver than a lot of other people.

Take care. No one knows what good thing might be right around the corner. Take it day by day or when things are really tough moment by moment. Others know and care about you and see your value as a person -independent of wher you live etc.

I send you big grandma hugs. You are not alone. There are many others right here with you.

Originally Posted by sinking

I hate being stuck here, no money, 34yo living with parents, no boyfriend etc. while i see one after the other of my friends building up a family, proceeding well with careers. it drives me nuts. WHY AM I STUCK? IT REALLY HURTS ME SO MUCH. and i do have tried to change things but i always end up stuck here. I HATE IT AND ALL MY LIFE

i know what you mean... i'm not sure i know anyone around me who isn't doing 1 thing or another- work, colledge, something like that.

and here i am.. little old me, wasting my life away sitting here listening to hailstorm and drinking soda.

i just don't get it sometimes.. i know it's the way life is, but my life sucks so much

Originally Posted by sinking

I hate being stuck here, no money, 34yo living with parents, no boyfriend etc. while i see one after the other of my friends building up a family, proceeding well with careers. it drives me nuts. WHY AM I STUCK? IT REALLY HURTS ME SO MUCH. and i do have tried to change things but i always end up stuck here. I HATE IT AND ALL MY LIFE

I can so relate to this. Although I am only 26, but I have achieved nothing with my life so far. Or that's how it feels anyway. I used to have it all going for me. Got a house and mortgage with my bf before any of my friends..they all went to uni and I stayed home and worked instead. But that only lasted 3 years before the relationship ended and I had to move back home with my parents. That was 2 years ago. Now I have no job either. No money. All my friends have moved away apart from one. And I am stuck here with nothing to do. I hate it too.

But I try to remind myself that it's unrealistic to try to compare my life with my friends. None of them have had to deal with the same issues. I have been in and out of hospital, made several attempts etc etc so the fact I am even still here, trying to fight is an achievement in itself. Yeah, I still am pretty stuck, but that doesn't mean I always will be. I have good times where I feel a bit of hope and am able to see a future that isn't like this.

[Ht32]

If it makes you feel any better I live with my parents and this is the third time ... Lol. I am 32 and want a life I feel stuck too! But atleast we are fortunate enough to have family who will always be there for us. I am not sure how people get through having mental illness and no support from family.... I guess unfortunately that is why we have so many homeless people. Hang in there I am sure things will get better for you.

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by Ht32

If it makes you feel any better I live with my parents and this is the third time ... Lol. I am 32 and want a life I feel stuck too! But atleast we are fortunate enough to have family who will always be there for us. I am not sure how people get through having mental illness and no support from family.... I guess unfortunately that is why we have so many homeless people. Hang in there I am sure things will get better for you.

I agree with this. I will be 36 in three weeks and I have done absolutely NOTHING with my life. I tried to go to school, I tried to go to work, I even tried to have a boyfriend and failed at every attempt. Just when I was stable, BOOOM I was hospitalized again,

But I do thankfully have my parents and even an understanding sister. So it COULD be worse. I couldn't imagine being out there on my own and having to deal with this alone.

Hope you feel better soon.