I really hate socialization (I always force myself to socialize when finding myself in a situation I cannot escape. Otherwise, I avoid them altogether), but at the same time I hate being alone; it's so painful? Does anyone feel the same, and how do you deal with this?

[Skeezyks]

Hello Wandering Soul: The Skeezyks avoids any & all socialization of any & all kinds. Is it painful... well... no... Human beings are social animals as we're too often reminded. So sure... it's probably just natural to want to be around other people. But, from the Skeezyks' perspective, it's all simply more trouble than it's worth. I suppose being here on PC is a way I cope with being isolated. It's enough for me.

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello Wandering Soul: The Skeezyks avoids any & all socialization of any & all kinds. Is it painful... well... no... Human beings are social animals as we're too often reminded. So sure... it's probably just natural to want to be around other people. But, from the Skeezyks' perspective, it's all simply more trouble than it's worth. I suppose being here on PC is a way I cope with being isolated. It's enough for me.

Me, too, I spend too much time on PC to cope with loneliness. Socialization to me is as painful as being alone, if not more. I wish I could accept the fact that I'm alone as you do and find some peace within myself.

By the way, I like how you address yourself as a third person . I like your style.

Thanks again.

Originally Posted by Wandering Soul

I really hate socialization (I always force myself to socialize when finding myself in a situation I cannot escape. Otherwise, I avoid them altogether), but at the same time I hate being alone; it's so painful? Does anyone feel the same, and how do you deal with this?

What is it about socialising you dislike? Is it all social occasions? Or are some situations worse than others?

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

What is it about socialising you dislike? Is it all social occasions? Or are some situations worse than others?

All kinds of socialization, to the point I wish not to encounter any body I know to make a talk or even say a hi, because I know it won't go well and will end up making me feel worse about myself.

Some situations worse than others? Sure. I especially hate parties and large gatherings, which sometimes I cannot avoid, especially in my country when I have to attend a relative's wedding or something similar. I feel so overwhelmed and makes me feel I must escape as soon as possible.

So, yes, all kinds of socialization. Even one to one. I feel so overwhelmed and force myself to talk. While it seems that talking to others comes naturally and pleasurable to most, I hate it. I don't like to open my mouth and talk. I feel some pain in my stomach when thinking about it

[avlady]

i used to be like that alot as a child although. i had happy memories and also was a victim of bullying. maybe you were bullied? that would hurt me i know but i also knew i needed to grow out of it if i was growing up. i am not scared antmore but rarely go out to parties and such anymore which i am glad about. i like to spend time with my husband and son.

[Perna]

Therapy helped me become less self conscious and anxious about socialization, better able to feel good about myself and abilities to talk with and enjoy others. Now I'm in a continuing care community so am constantly meeting people for meals, games, volunteer work, etc. The more I do the easier it gets/the more confident I get.

Originally Posted by Wandering Soul

All kinds of socialization, to the point I wish not to encounter any body I know to make a talk or even say a hi, because I know it won't go well and will end up making me feel worse about myself.

Some situations worse than others? Sure. I especially hate parties and large gatherings, which sometimes I cannot avoid, especially in my country when I have to attend a relative's wedding or something similar. I feel so overwhelmed and makes me feel I must escape as soon as possible.

So, yes, all kinds of socialization. Even one to one. I feel so overwhelmed and force myself to talk. While it seems that talking to others comes naturally and pleasurable to most, I hate it. I don't like to open my mouth and talk. I feel some pain in my stomach when thinking about it

How do you feel about communicating with us here on Psych Central?

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

How do you feel about communicating with us here on Psych Central?

I'm just killing time here. I don't feel connected with anyone. I don't find any meaning in being here anymore. I cannot help others, and others cannot help me. That's why I asked my account to be deleted because I don't find it useful for me to be here anymore. I'm just waiting it to be deleted. Thanks

Originally Posted by Wandering Soul

I'm just killing time here. I don't feel connected with anyone. I don't find any meaning in being here anymore. I cannot help others, and others cannot help me. That's why I asked my account to be deleted because I don't find it useful for me to be here anymore. I'm just waiting it to be deleted. Thanks

I'm really genuinely sorry to hear that, and I know many others will be too.

The reason I asked the question about how you felt about communicating with us here is because I have seen the positive responses your posts received, many people identified with what you wrote.

You have helped others, you helped me with your reply to my thread the other week, your reply was earnest and heartfelt and it meant a lot to me.

[divine1966]

I am very sorry you are hurting

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