[bellakitten]

Hello,

I would like to describe to you how I have been feeling lately and am interested to hear your thoughts and advice about how I could best deal with these emotions and feelings in a positive and constructive way. I would love any feedback you guys can offer and I am new to this forum (this is my first post)!

I love traveling and experiencing new things however, every time I return home from a trip, whether it is shorter or longer, I start to feel really down and like my life is being wasted at home.

I am constantly dreaming of and imagining myself being somewhere else and living a different life, yet I feel almost powerless to change my current situation and not in control of my life. My job as an administrative assistant is unfulfilling and boring, yet I am paid well and am too scared to quit my job and find another, because I keep thinking, "what if the next job I choose is even worse?" I do feel like I need to change my job, but I just don't know where to begin and am fearful of not finding something any better, with my limited skills.

I can't stop my brain from thinking about my past travel memories and trying to relive those moments. I feel like it gets in the way of me enjoying the present moment when I am always trying to live in the past or dream of the future when I can get away again.

I am also always thinking that the grass must be greener on the other side, yet I understand that nobody's life is perfect and there are always challenges. I follow a lot of travel bloggers on social media and can't help but wish for their life of constant travel and exploring.

I feel completely unmotivated and stuck in my current life and routine and sometimes find it difficult to get out of bed in the morning and go to work, in addition to actually working, finishing projects and setting goals for myself.

I have trouble finding joy and happiness in the mundane and routine aspects of life. My daily life feels so monotonous and every day blends together.

Do you have any advice for how to deal with these feelings that I have been experiencing? I would greatly appreciate any tips that you can provide to me!

[Skeezyks]

Hello bellakitten: Welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

From what you wrote, it sounds to me as though you're just a dreamer! I know something of this because I was much the same way most of my life. (I'm an older person now.) All of my life I dreamt of travel & adventure & various kinds of wonderful things I could do. But the reality is I never did any of them. I had reasonably good paying jobs & financial as well as relationship responsibilities. So I just kept slogging along one day after another until it all began to unravel when I reached 50. Now it's too late to worry about it.

I don't know as I have any particularly great ideas for you here. It sounds as though you're perhaps struggling with a bit of depression... mostly related to the unfulfilling life you're leading. The problem is that this kind of situational depression can morph into a more generalized depression if allowed to continue over the long term.

I think what you need to do is to set a lifestyle goal for yourself, along with some intermediate objectives... steps toward achieving your goal... & start working your plan. If this just seems to be beyond your capability at this point, then perhaps you may want to seek out some counseling or individual therapy... someone who can help you to develop a plan & sustain you as you put it into practice.

The alternative, it seems to me, is to simply work on learning to accept things as they are, which may also be something that will require some counseling or therapy. Being able to accept things as they are isn't a bad plan. In fact, it can be an extremely useful skill to have; & one you may need anyway as your life progresses. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't strive to have the kind of life you yearn to live. You only go around once, as they say...

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

Oh I can absolutely relate to this title in this thread. I'm sitting here right now thinking of these 3 things.

[Thunder Bow]

It is all about taking risks. To move on in life, one must take risks. Is what you seeking worth the risk? Do a realistic assesment of the risks involved. Then take the risk.

[handheart]

Well its clearly that you are not happy where you are and you want to be somewhere else .You must thinks very good and decide if you still want this job .What heart tell you listen carefuly if you think you should search a new job then do it ,sometimes in life we must risk a little