[MtnTime2896]

Everyone likes to tell me how much I remind them of my dad.....

I can't even begin to describe how much I hate that. I know they mean it in the most endearing way and mean it as a compliment but they don't know the **** I do. They didn't have to live with him. Even then, they weren't his damn verbal/psychological/emotional punching bag. They have no idea the **** that man has said and done.
Sure, I love my dad, but I'm so emotionally cut off from him that I say it with almost, almost no feeling.

This isn't a compliment for me. You might as well condemn me into becoming exactly what I'm fighting not to be. They never heard "Why don't you **** or get off the pot, already. You want to kill yourself, then do it. If not, then grow up and quit whining." The first time I ever came clean about being depressed and considering getting help.
Yeah, that's the person I want to remind people of. Give me a break.

[MickeyCheeky]

Think of it this way: they don't know your dad as much as you do, so when they say that, they clearly refer to the "surface" part of your dad (I'm guessing the one that looks good?). Take it for what is it: an (ignorant) compliment. If you can't see it this way, then.. just ignore these comments, I guess. :/ Of course they don't know what you've been through, so their opinion regards this doesn't really matter.

Besides this... I'm really sorry to hear that about your dad. Those comments are extremely mean-spirited and you don't deserve them at all. Please, don't listen to a word of what he says - you're really strong, you're still standing, fightning and trying to improve your life. If these aren't signs of a strong person, then I don't know what they are.

[avlady]

i feel sorry for your situation, i had the same problem with my mother. nice to everyone emotionally, but her family emotionally. i forgive her as shes older now but it was a bad ride. good luck

Originally Posted by Só leigheas

Everyone likes to tell me how much I remind them of my dad.....

I can't even begin to describe how much I hate that. I know they mean it in the most endearing way and mean it as a compliment but they don't know the **** I do. They didn't have to live with him. Even then, they weren't his damn verbal/psychological/emotional punching bag. They have no idea the **** that man has said and done.
Sure, I love my dad, but I'm so emotionally cut off from him that I say it with almost, almost no feeling.

This isn't a compliment for me. You might as well condemn me into becoming exactly what I'm fighting not to be. They never heard "Why don't you **** or get off the pot, already. You want to kill yourself, then do it. If not, then grow up and quit whining." The first time I ever came clean about being depressed and considering getting help.
Yeah, that's the person I want to remind people of. Give me a break.

I grew up with Donald Trump.