[shatteredexistence]

It's been well over a year since she left. She was never mine in the first place, and due to circumstances we would have never been together anyway. The rational part of my brain tells me that it will never happen, but the irrational part keeps saying, "Maybe one day". I constantly see "signs" that it could be true but maybe I'm looking too hard for them, wanting to see them. I just don't know how to get her out of my head without losing complete contact with her.

[gayleggg]

It would be hard to get past it as long as you still have contact with her.

I had the same problem with a guy I knew but couldn't let go until I cut him out of my life and even then it wasn't easy.

[sans]

Love gets in there and gets ahold of us like nothing else. Even when the love is gone, we still try our best to be somewhere in their life. I agree with gayle. If you want to get over her, you have to let go. Find new things to think about. Different people to hang out with. Its not easy, but it's possible.

[Bill3]

I agree with the above two posters.

[eyesclosed]

write down a list of how u benefited from her and how haven't see which is bigger and you will see the light

She's not exactly banging down your door and ringing the phone off the wall now is she. So, that's a major sign. It's a dream shatteredexistence, it's all a dream, so go with the rational side of your thinking with this and you'll get over her soon, don't worry. I know your pain. *hug*

[LivyLovey]

I get it. I'm dealing with the same thing. I finally found the love I had always wanted last February. It was the whirlwind fairy tale love at first sight type of romance only found in movies. And then she dropped me in September but still wanted to be best buddies. I spiraled out of control, tried so hard to be there for her while also trying to heal my broken heart. I had to quit her completely in March because I was suicidal and knew being around her was making it worse. Between Sept and March, I watched for signs in everything she did and every word she said to me to see if maybe we had a chance. I asked her several times if there might be a possibility for us in the future. She gave me lots of maybes. Those maybes destroyed me, especially when she started dating again.

Get away from her. Leaving was the best possible thing I could have done, and also probably the single most difficult thing I have done in my life. But the constant struggle and questioning and imagining what might be or could have been... dude, it will ruin you if you let it. She will never get out of your head if she's still in front of you. Cut all ties. Burn the bridges. Run away as fast and as far as you can. Do it to save yourself.

It takes two to tango. I have someone I never got over. They got over me quite easily.

I am sorry. It happens a lot in this world. It is just a fact of life.