I found out my boyfriend recorded us having sex without me knowing. Help!

I recently was going through my boyfriend of 5yrs on and offs external hard drive. I first found a bunch of videos and pictures of all of his exes he had kept. I them found a few that he recorded of them that they obviously didn't know were being filmed. It made me stick to my stomach. I dug a little more and found a video where he had done the same thing to me. I made copies of everything and deleted them off his external drive. He now knows I know everything and is trying everything to apologize and make it up to me. When he did it, it was at the beginning of our relationship and he swears he would never do it again. I don't know what to do. I don't know if all the tears and trying to kiss my *** is because he truly gets how upset and disgusted I am (it's to the point that things trigger me and I can't stop shaking and crying) or if he is really just trying to make things right because he knows I can turn him in to the police. Please, I need some advice. I can't talk to anyone about this because no matter what it's embarrassing and if I do decide to stay everyone will know and judge both of us. What do I do? He cries all the time and hasn't been eating. I just don't know his motivation?

Yeah, he has a huge (and very sick) problem. I would probably not see him anymore. Also, you can press charges, if it comes to that.

go to the police

Recording explicit materials of you without you knowing is troubling. What if he keeps these materials for revenge, by putting them on the Internet someday? Acting sorry after being caught shouldn't weigh too much to you in my opinion. I hope you can make the right decision, and protect your privacy very well. Honest men don't act behind others' backs.

It is rooted in his depression and need to control people. Professional help for him is recommended.

May I ask how you know whether or not it's rooted in his depression and need to control people? Do you know this person in real life?

To the OP, sorry that this violation of privacy has happened to you.

The post indicates depression, and filming indicates control over the one being filmed. His behaviour as related here, is controlling behaviour.

There are a couple indications of depression, yes, but crying and not eating does not necessarily mean a depression diagnosis. I would caution you about throwing labels out there. We do not know this man.

This is violation of privacy.. I think he could be arrested for this
So yeah, he may be feeling geniunely sorry or not... but you have to take care of yourself first of all. What would you do if he puts the video on the Internet?
I advice to go to the police as soon as possible..

I'm sorry this happened to you

Posting that the boyfriend is showing depression is not labeling anyone.

"It is rooted in his depression and need to control people. Professional help for him is recommended."

This sounds a lot like a diagnosis to me. If you had said "He seems to be feeling depressed", that would be a different story. However, that's not the focus of this thread so I'll drop it...I've said my piece. Have a lovely day.

Thank You for dropping it.

Apparently he has issues (whatever they are), but these shouldn't be an excuse for what he has done.

I thought he would have to distribute the footage to be in real trouble, but your boyfriend is already an alleged felon in Missouri:

"Can we tape?" A journalist’s guide to taping phone calls and in-person conversations in the 50 states and D.C.

Now that you have this information, in the future how will you know whether he is being nice to you because he loves you or because he fears you?

Honestly I think you should retrieve deleted files and save what he filmed of you on your own device after which I think you should make a police report. My
Opinion. ASAP