[music-mum]

That is the question. I see my T on Tuesday, but what to do now? How can I keep myself from losing it?

[Skeezyks]

Hello music-mum: Honestly, I don't know... The Skeezyks has been "just hanging on" for so long it's become a way of life. Sometimes I think I wouldn't know how to do any differently if I decided to try. But the fact is I'm just too old to make it worth even considering.

Many years ago, my father used to say: "You're not required to like it. You're just required to do it." I take that as my mantra. Sometimes I think, as the old saying goes: "when you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot & hang on." I'm no longer on psych med's nor do I see a therapist. One thing that helps me is listening to chant videos on YouTube, which I often do while I'm here on PC replying to other members' posts. They sooth me.

[leejosepho]

Share. Talk to somebody, and even if that means going to the ER and asking to speak with a psych nurse or anyone who might be willing to try to help you get through until your appointment...and just in case you might wonder, you are definitely worthy of our time here...so please share.

[ABC1357]

I know it's hard to wait. I totally agree with leejosepho. I use online resource, like online counseling (you can find either free peer talk or professional one). That helps to have someone to express your fear. Honestly, I have used suicide text hotline once, when I really lost control. It would be helpful for you to have list of these resources ready just in case.

[PumpkinPieHead]

How about a stroll along the block?

[music-mum]

I'm just dealing with the shock of hearing from a family member after 7 years, dealing with trust issues, fear and feel like i'm re-living the tramma of my child hod and beyond.

[winter4me]

put the right music up loud and dance....write, draw, talk to someone, make a collage, cry if you can....
Go OUT-----look at stuff----keep busy....
these things help me if I make myself do them

[avlady]

yes, the great outdoors is a place to be even if its on your back or front porch. i live in and on a dead end street so for me i don't have to worry about traffic etc.

[music-mum]

I have tried and am busy (who isn't when you have kids to look after). I'm struggling with having to make it look like I'm ok but frankly I'm not.

[leejosepho]

Trying to look okay enough to not be too disturbing for others while we are disturbed can be quite challenging at times, and then when they ask I sometimes tell them I am barely hanging on but still determined to do so.

[Aardwolf]

Try going for a walk in nature it helps me clear my mind.

If you can't then try grounding yourself, and then prioritising your feelings to figure out what is actually worth flapping about. If it is something I cannot change or affect immediately then i simply stop worrying about it.

[TishaBuv]

It depends on what 'losing it' means to you. Of course you don't want to hurt yourself or others. And not scare the heck out of your kids right in front of them. But aside from that, why not go ahead and 'lose it'? Let out those emotions. You have every reason to feel what you are feeling. What's wrong with letting it all out? You'll feel better.

[Onward2wards]

Take a step back, and a deep breath. Evaluate what's important to you. Think things through, make decisions, take action.

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

It depends on what 'losing it' means to you. Of course you don't want to hurt yourself or others. And not scare the heck out of your kids right in front of them. But aside from that, why not go ahead and 'lose it'? Let out those emotions. You have every reason to feel what you are feeling. What's wrong with letting it all out? You'll feel better.

Some people have the experience, particularly in childhood, that "letting it all out" only got you in more trouble. It is hard to feel that that experience will not happen again, even though you are no longer a child. And sometimes in adulthood letting it all out will get you in trouble.

I don't see a perfect solution. Depends on how much uncertainty you can tolerate. Psych Central is better than many places to express these ideas, but it is not perfect either.