Hey people,

Just wanted to share a little something that's quite a toll on me.
I still have a crush and feelings for a woman with whom I had been in class 7 years ago. About a year ago, after viewing wonderful pictures of her on Facebook, I decided to take to her again, ask how she's doing, and propose to sit for coffee. She said she's sorry that she has a boyfriend so it won't work out. I ended the conversation with good spirit afterwards, though I am occasionally a little haunted by concern for her that she felt bad during that conversation.
Now it's been a year, and my mood is getting better, yet now I'm starting to have dreams where she's in them.

It's so annoying, she was my first crush.
Although ultimately I'd love to get to know her better as a person and maybe be together (that depends on her, too), but a long time has past and we've probably grown afar. While my feelings want to go back, my mind says those feelings need to be eased so I can move on forward.

[MickeyCheeky]

It can be hard to let go of a crush.. especially if it's the first one.

It's kinda weird though that you're only dreaming about her only a year after this happenes. Did you have other dreams/experiences in this year, too? Do you think of her when you're not dreaming?

As for dreaming only right now, I assume it's because of my mood getting better recently. My dreams are becoming more rich in content, and she tends to appear in them.
I used to think of her, feel her in my heart. It was with greater frequency after I had talked with her, now it's less. Sometimes it feels like she is part of my happiness, regardless whether we're in contact or not.

[Thunder Bow]

She is a part of your happiness, she represents how you feeling in your dreams, not so much about her, but how you are feeling about your own life.

[introspectiveme]

I don't know what to say. I have a crush on someone too, I don't know how things will end up but my feelings for her are sincere and precious to me.

It's natural to feel that way. I had a crush on a girl took with me a couple of classes in my undergrad studies, and I think she liked me because she once came and talked to me and took my notebook to copy it, beside all the looks she was giving me. I was afraid to talk to her. So, I let it go, and I regret it, because to this day, after 13 years, I still dream of her, and even search for her on the Internet (but to no avail). Probably she is married and have children already, anyway.

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

She is a part of your happiness, she represents how you feeling in your dreams, not so much about her, but how you are feeling about your own life.

It's true. Makes you think and feel that if she is a component to your happiness, then she's someone you can truly love with all your heart.

Originally Posted by introspectiveme

I don't know what to say. I have a crush on someone too, I don't know how things will end up but my feelings for her are sincere and precious to me.

I have no much experience to advice you exactly what to do, but one approach I'm considering in relationships is treating the other person with human love, just as they are. Talk to her, compliment her, ask her to talk some time.
If you're too shy or anxious, you can take things more slowly. There's plenty of time for two people to get to know each other.

Originally Posted by Mr. Stranger

It's natural to feel that way. I had a crush on a girl took with me a couple of classes in my undergrad studies, and I think she liked me because she once came and talked to me and took my notebook to copy it, beside all the looks she was giving me. I was afraid to talk to her. So, I let it go, and I regret it, because to this day, after 13 years, I still dream of her, and even search for her on the Internet (but to no avail). Probably she is married and have children already, anyway.

I feel you. One thing I tell myself at times is that love can be found in everyone, and that rather than searching for The One, search for Some One.

Some people just don't find love. I think I'm one of those unlucky ones.

[bornunderabadsign]

I remember all of my crushes and a few of them I still have a little crush on. When I was a high school freshman I had a crush on an eight grader who still lives near me and every time I see her it comes back up and that was over ten years ago. She is now married with a kid and another on the way and I couldn't be happier for her. Another of my crushes I actually ended up dating but things didn't work out because I'm monogamous and she wasn't. I still crush on her and sometime when I see her (which is rarely as she lives on the other side of the country now and only comes back to where she was raised during the holidays) I get butterflies in my stomach. I can go on and on about people who I have had crushes on that I still have crushes on... I crush hard. XD

Originally Posted by bornunderabadsign

I remember all of my crushes and a few of them I still have a little crush on. When I was a high school freshman I had a crush on an eight grader who still lives near me and every time I see her it comes back up and that was over ten years ago. She is now married with a kid and another on the way and I couldn't be happier for her. Another of my crushes I actually ended up dating but things didn't work out because I'm monogamous and she wasn't. I still crush on her and sometime when I see her (which is rarely as she lives on the other side of the country now and only comes back to where she was raised during the holidays) I get butterflies in my stomach. I can go on and on about people who I have had crushes on that I still have crushes on... I crush hard. XD

Comes to show that love can be felt and given to not just one person, but to many.
Thanks for that

[Gojamadar]

Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian

Hey people,

Just wanted to share a little something that's quite a toll on me.
I still have a crush and feelings for a woman with whom I had been in class 7 years ago. About a year ago, after viewing wonderful pictures of her on Facebook, I decided to take to her again, ask how she's doing, and propose to sit for coffee. She said she's sorry that she has a boyfriend so it won't work out. I ended the conversation with good spirit afterwards, though I am occasionally a little haunted by concern for her that she felt bad during that conversation.
Now it's been a year, and my mood is getting better, yet now I'm starting to have dreams where she's in them.

It's so annoying, she was my first crush.
Although ultimately I'd love to get to know her better as a person and maybe be together (that depends on her, too), but a long time has past and we've probably grown afar. While my feelings want to go back, my mind says those feelings need to be eased so I can move on forward.

Hi,
It is always pleasant to meet an old friend, especially an old flame your adolescence. She was nice to you and gave you a proper answer that she has a boyfriend.
Regarding your dreams; the subconscious has access to a persons entire life experience at any time during sleep and pick out what everit wants to create a dream.
During sleep there is a stream of thoughts flowing through the subconscious mind and thoughts often intrude. Your dreams simply reflect the pleasant thoughts of her.
Move on>