Why am I not able to make friends and always left lonely ?

Before starting of college i made great friends on online social media and whats app but after the starting of college i was stressed because of me being from reserved category and even the friends i made online started ignoring me because of my poor rank in JEE Mains. then i found new friends but all of them were from poor background having less knowledge of English and all and therefore i got with them initially because of the need to be not left alone but after some time i realized that we did not had similar interests as i liked reading novels and harry potter stuff and English movies while they were alien to these concepts and always used to talk about cricket and old Hindi songs but I because of not having friends in the last 4 years of schooling due to excessive ragging decided to stick with them due to which my self esteem and confidence worsened since i did not wanted to be left alone. but on doing this i forgot to maintain my self esteem and standard and never replied to their jibs due to which all of them started making fun of me and always say foul words to me to which i do not have any suitable replies as i am not witty or sarcastic by nature. even i tried searching different friend groups but was never able to maintain friendship with them as it has been 8 months since the starting of college and every person has gotten into a group of their own and reluctant to talk to others and remain secluded in their group. and therefore now after 8 months has passed since the starting of college and still i am feeling this problem i always think about this issue due to which i am not able to focus on studies and have become depressed and an over thinker and do not see a way to overcome this. i tried several methods to overcome this like reading various self help books for eg how to make friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. but to no avail because of trying and trying for past many months now my mentality has taken a negative role that i will not be able to make friends in my whole life and would be left alone forever . please help me come out of these situation.

I'm so sorry... I can relate to your situation, it's hard making friends for me as well Maybe seeking for a therapist might be helpful?

Hello Rahul919: I'm sorry you are experiencing this difficulty. I see you're in India. I'm afraid I don't know anything about how social relationships develop there.

I recall, many decades ago now, when I first started college, I lived at home with my parents. I didn't know anyone at the college. I just drove to my classes & went home. That was it. Once in a while I studied... After a couple of years of this I moved into a dormitory on campus & then finally came to know some other students.

One thing I didn't do, which might have helped, was to have joined some student organizations of one sort or another. Perhaps if there are such things at your college joining one or more of them might help to break the ice, so to speak. Also, since you mention your self-image has taken a hit, if your school has a student counseling center, checking in with them might be beneficial as well. Talking this through with an objective counseling professional may help. Good luck!

I have always have the same problem I hope things turn around but the truth is if they don't like you for who you are then there not a true friend theres nothing wrong with you don't fixate your thoughts on this and you will have a freind soon