[michela_22]

Hi, I am currently a full - time college student and living at home with the family. I am saving money for an apartment, but I wonder if I should do that when my mother can barely make it paying bills. On top of that, my sister has a child and is living at home without getting a job. She claims she has too many mental and physical problems to get a job, and my mom argues with her all the time. I am left at home trying to take care of her son, get a part-time job, and go to school. My mom talks of kicking her out, but then my sister claims she would take her son with her, and we're not sure about that. He's been settled at the same school for awhile now. And my sister has no place to go, she says. It irritates me because she can sit in the room and laugh and have a good time and demand money for useless things. And she always gets her way if she can get hostile. I absolutely loathe it, but I feel at a loss of what to do and the environment is causing my pent up anger to unleash itself. I'm stuck trying to figure out how to handle the anger and get my family to support itself, because it looks like it's up to me; my other relatives expect it of me pretty much. How do I handle the pressure and feel like I'm not talking to a brick wall?
Sincerely,
One Exhausted Sister

Hello michela_22, welcome to PC! I hope you find your time here to be of benefit. Once you have 5 approved posts you will be able to enter the chat room and talk to fellow members. There is almost always someone online to chat with.

That sounds like a frustrating living situation for sure! I would encourage you to move out on your own as soon as possible. I know you worry about your mom but she is an adult and has to look after herself, she can't expect you to cover her expenses. Do what is best for you and your mental well-being.

[Teddy Bear]

Welcome to PC

[Sunflower123]

Hello. Welcome to PC. I agree with scaredandconfused. Stick to your goal of moving out and take care of yourself. I know you want to help your mom but you'd in essence be supporting your sister as well. You are investing in your future and your sister is not. Keep moving forward. Best wishes.

[Bill3]

And she always gets her way if she can get hostile.

Are you familiar with codependence? If not, I recommend that you read up on it. Another useful term to know is emotional blackmail.

demand money for useless things

Until you develop the ability to say "No" to your sister's and family's expectations, what has been happening will continue to happen.

[MickeyCheeky]

Like others have said, I'd suggest to move out, if you can.. I don't think this situation is really helping any of you. Good luck

[Unrigged64072835]

Your mother and sister are adults. They can handle it and if they can't they should ask for help outside of the house. You need to leave because you're sucked too far into this drama. Nothing will change until something changes, and it may mean you leaving.