Wanting the impossible

I seem to only be able to want what i cannot have, because when things become real or even just possible, then i dont want them anymore.

Anyone can explain this please???

I've never had that happen but I have heard of people who want what they can't have until they get it then they don't want it like you said. Can't explain it but it must be frustrating. How are you ever satisfied?

Thank you for answering Jennifer1967. i gave it some more thoughts thanks to your last question.

Satisfied? it happens rarely. most of the times i feel satisfied when something good happens unexpectedly. but that means its only a matter of luck.

the other times, i get to feel satisfied in that little time gap between when the wanted thing becomes real and when i actually realize it did happen. usually it takes me some time to realize something good happened and i feel "woah, i cant believe it!". but then it suddenly becomes as if it was taken for granted and i start to feel disappointed and dismiss the whole thing.

maybe the problem is having too high expectations???

i dont feel i have too high expectations, but maybe? or maybe i expect external things to make me happy and solve my life? this would explain the disappointment.

i was also thinking though that this thing is really confusing when its about yes/no situations because having experienced both sides and both times wanting the opposite makes me wonder what i really want.
for example, when im single i think i want a bf, but when i have a bf i think i was better off alone. so do i want a bf or not?????

it really confuses me about what i REALLY want and i still have no idea of why it happens

I have the same problem, sinking.

I've been told (by more than a couple of people) that my problem is that I haven't truly accepted myself. I need to love myself before I can love anyone else ~ romantically.

Does that possibility ring any bells for you? (You don't have to answer, of course. Just something to think about.)

Best wishes to you

I'm sure you're not the only one who feels this way.. I don't know the reasons, but what you suggested may be strong possibilities.