[Orvel]

Certain women can make me a complete anxious wreck. These women are usually loud extroverts or women who carry themselves in a certain way(women who show pride). I guess it's because I find these women to be "strong".

I always thought that that feeling WAS attraction. I realized that I have an image in my head about who they are. And sooner or later I end up disappointed, confused and sad.

So I am trying to learn how to ignore this need for a strong partner. And all that I end up with is confusion.

There is this woman who I suspect has a crush on me (she is anxious around me). Our paths come across almost every weekend. But when I look at her, all I see is a frightened girl. And that kinda turns me off.

My friend mentioned that he has two women on his mind. And I thought she is one of them (he mentioned her previously). But then he revealed who and she isn't among the two. I felt disappointed and felt as if my interest for her diminished.

I actually showed a little bit of interest in her BEFORE she started being anxious around me. And I guess I did it because a couple of guys (including my friend) told me that they like her/find her cute/find her attractive etc. So basically an ego boost (I wasn't aware of this).

And again. I am left confused.

I am female, but struggle with the same thing. I'm attracted to confident men. I don't know why. Some of them make me sad and anxious.

[Sunflower123]

Have you dated "strong" women in the past?

[Orvel]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

Have you dated "strong" women in the past?

Well, I am not from the US. There is no "dating" here. Just relationships.

And relationships aren't really "casual". Most people have one or two relationships in their entire life. And then they get married. There are extremes of course. But they are rare.

I had opportunities and did come close to a relationship, but sadly never been in one.

[GuitarShred423]

I'm a 33 year old male never had a real relationship before, and by "real" I mean 6 months or more at least. I'd say that I've kept girls interested for like a month or 2 but that's it. I'm a musician and actor. I always try and show as much love and compassion to girls and women but no matter what I do they wont ever commit to me at all. Now I'm to the point where I just don't try anymore.