[introspectiveme]

Why do i constantly seek acknowledgement from friends? Why do i have to overanalyze everything like how they greet me or say bye or what type of smileys they send and stuff like that.

Days feel like weeks when i have no one to talk to. When i do contact my friends, I'm sure they feel like "didnt we just talk yesterday". I have plenty of problems of my own, i choose to ignore them. Instead, focus on others.

The only thing that sorta works for me is listening to aggressive, heavy music or playing my guitar. As much as i love depressing music that adds a soundtrack to my thoughts, it makes me feel like I'm stuck in a sad movie or something

How can i rewire my brain to think that i don't need others' acknowledgement to feel like i have some value.

I am really obsessing over what my friends think of me and it is not healthy.

[Hobbit House]

I think it is normal to think about what other people think of us. It’s easy to say “ well,I shouldn’t care what other people think”. It’s another thing to put that into practice.

[introspectiveme]

You are right. I think my problem really is that i try to please everybody and dwell on the people who disagree with me.

[Hobbit House]

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “you can’t please everyone all the time”. It’s true, you really can’t. Just focus on those around you whose opinions you value. The rest will work itself out.good luck!

[MickeyCheeky]

I can actually relate It's all a matter of self-esteem, I'm afraid. If you don't have it, you start seeking it from others. Do you see a therapist? Or perhaps you might buy some self-help books if you can find them.

[introspectiveme]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I can actually relate It's all a matter of self-esteem, I'm afraid. If you don't have it, you start seeking it from others. Do you see a therapist? Or perhaps you might buy some self-help books if you can find them.

I better seek some help if this continues.

Nice to know someone can relate.

[introspectiveme]

Originally Posted by Hobbit House

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “you can’t please everyone all the time”. It’s true, you really can’t. Just focus on those around you whose opinions you value. The rest will work itself out.good luck!

Thank you so much.

I wish i could beat these thoughts into my head.

I have this problem at times. I feel paranoid that people may be talking crap behind my back. I think questioning your thoughts is helpful. Being in the moment and realizing the thoughts and not worrying whether you'll judge yourself because of being harsh to yourself. It's a matter of self esteem I guess. You should realise you are worthy no matter what happens or what others say about you. There will be people who will dislike and others who will love you and stay in your life. People have spoken crap behind my back, spoke negatively in front of me, called me ugly and worse names. At the end of the day, it's partly their issues aswell and not you. If they call you ugly, it might because they aren't very happy with themselves. A happy, confident person wouldn't want to put others down. Perhaps try CBT or DBT therapy. I don't know what you deal with but be gentle with yourself and take your time. I wish you all the best.

[Fuzzybear]

[Sunflower123]

Therapy may really be beneficial.