[NeedHelp104]

I would like to say in advance that I apologize for making this a sad thread. My intention is not for people to pity for me, but to explain how I feel and vent to people I don't know because...well, I don't have anyone to vent to or talk to help me feel better. If you decide to stay, thank you so much. It truly means a lot.

I'm currently 20, and I have what you describe by many as having 'no life'. I don't have any friends. I don't do anything outside my home. I'm often rejected by people. It's difficult for me to make friends, they only see me as an acquaintance and nothing more. I try hard but no one seems interested. I have never had a girlfriend (I'm not so attractive, but I've come to learn facts don't care about your feelings).

To put it blunt, I'm a nerd. I love school. I love learning about Biology and Chemistry and in some ways I feel guilty for it. People always have a reason to shove their thoughts about my life. They love to tell me how meaningless my life is because I study a lot and love doing it and I should 'go out' more and be like rest of our youth. I have a 4.0 University cumulative GPA. Well, I've tried making friends and it never works out. People (for some reason) never really care about having a friendship with me. Only need me to help do their homework or something else to help them then they are off.

My mom is stunningly attractive. Everyone in public looks at her like she's a goddess. She can make friends easily and in public everyone loves to talk to her. Meanwhile, compare her to me it's a totally different story. No one likes me. I'm in some ways ashamed to be her son. I'm a freaking nerd while she was your popular girl in High School. I get embarrassed telling people I'm her son because I look like a total goofball while everyone is expecting some type of George Clooney. My brother and his damn friends always make fun of me for being alone, and my parents always comment on me how I have nobody. My mom even today said I have nobody. My dad also tells me how nerdy I am and it does hurt. It makes me feel inferior. I'm just being myself. My dad always tells me how at my age he had a six pack, etc. and was out at nightclubs partying at my age.

I'm tired of it. I'm not suicidal, but I am sad. I don't even know what to do with my time besides reading science books or staring at a computer screen. I have no friends. No one to vent to so I only have PsychCentral to help me out. Whenever I start opening a science textbook (sometimes) I feel like I should put it down and be like everyone else but I don't want to. I love this stuff.

Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated. People even at University always love to say I have no life. I'm tired of people judging me.

[Neenagirl]

I don't think you are a nerd...anytime I know a science-type person, they are so into their stuff that they seem standoffish. I don't know or have heard of any intelligent chemist or biologist that was a social butterfly. I think they are always "thinking" that people get pushed out of their mind, so does time. Be yourself, you are not your mom, brother or father and never will be. You don't want to follow in their footsteps, you want to make your own footprints. Pick up that science book and read and read. Someday you will be a great scientist and you will be yourself to boot!!

[Thunder Bow]

The problem is that you are smart. No need for parties and beer. Your to smart for that stuff.

[MickeyCheeky]

I understand that you may feel hurt by how people judge you, but you will do even worse if you try to act like them. You have to do what you love - if you like science, studying, focus on that.
If you want to make friendships, perhaps you can make friends with people who share your same interests in science and books

[Sunflower123]

I agree with all of the above. You do you. You sound like a highly intelligent, hard working individual who will be successful and go far in life. Fear not. Friends will come. You won’t be alone the rest of your life. When I first read your post I thought you go!!! You have a gift. You’ll be just fine.