[Ameline]

Yesterday I cried over a lost pet notice. The owner of the dog sounded so desperate I couldn't help myself not to feel their pain.

Today I saw two ambulances rushing past, followed by a police car and wondered what happened. I almost cried again at the thought of people being in such distress.

I cry when I read sad stories online, especially regarding children.

I choke up if I hear a parent screaming at their child. I seem to be able to tell when the child's crying is really desperate as opposed to angry, too.

I often cry when reading books if there's an emotional scene. I cried when re-reading Harry Potter, for crying out loud! (I was bored and it was the only book around).

I dutifully respond to tear-jerk moments in bad action movies, even!


It's been going on for the past 6 months. Otherwise I would say I am doing very well, not depressed in the slightest, everything is working out for me.
I had a difficult past, which made me somewhat cynical and closed off to emotions of others. The things that make me cry now? I felt distanced. They never seemed... real. I feel like I've went through substantial healing in the past few years, though, and now I feel almost free from what happened. I wonder if the suddenly emerging sensitivity has something to do with the healing work, or if it's a sign of something tricky going on deep inside (I'm 28, so no puberty hormones)

[avlady]

I wish i could cry!!!The last ime i crid was over 30 years ago, i think i cried myself all out. It was such a bad thing that happened to me, i cried all night and day long now i can't feel anything and feel numb.

[Yzen]

I think it might be more concerning if you were crying randomly without an emotional cause. It sounds like you extremely sensitive to others distress. Can you think of anything that happened 6 months ago that was out of the ordinary? It might be something that seems unrelated but triggered this. Just guessing...I don't know.

[MickeyCheeky]

You seem to just be sensitive to other people's tragedies.. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Is that annoying to you?

[Thunder Bow]

Congratulations on your Healing

[Ameline]

Originally Posted by Yzen

I think it might be more concerning if you were crying randomly without an emotional cause. It sounds like you extremely sensitive to others distress. Can you think of anything that happened 6 months ago that was out of the ordinary? It might be something that seems unrelated but triggered this. Just guessing...I don't know.

Out of the ordinary? Oh, wow! Here's a list:
-I finally tried to get into a distance learning university program in my chosen field, very difficult admission tests (less than 8% get in). I always wanted to study this, but never got enough courage together to even try
-I quit my part time job
-I moved into a different city
-I moved in with my boyfriend
-I found a new job (first full time job)
-I promptly lost the job a month later
-I learned that I was 2 points under the lowest admitted score for the university. The person ahead of me got in.
-I found a new job
-I started working on getting a TESOL certificate
-I started to study even harder to get admitted to the university program next year

I feel more "awake" than I was for years. I dare to dream, I dare to try, I believe that my dreams are achievable (in no small part due to the incredible support from my boyfriend). I just wish there were more hours in the day so that I would have time for everything I want to do now. I feel like I've missed so much!

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

You seem to just be sensitive to other people's tragedies.. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Is that annoying to you?

It's not annoying to me, but it's a really big change. I was never like this. Sometimes it's a bit embarrassing, though. I really hope it's a sign I'm doing better rather than a sign of an unseen storm brewing

[Yzen]

Ameline,
That seems like a lot of mostly good changes. Maybe the good stress of the new starts and being more "awake" is what is making you feel things more deeply than before.

You could try to work on making a "neutral" expression when you start feeling like you might cry (if you want to stop it in certain situations). I've heard that stopping the facial contractions that begin the crying process can stop the crying.

[Sunflower123]

It sounds like a good change and that you are healing. Congratulations.