[Mountaindewed]

I have this thing, perhaps it’s an obsession. I have to share all my food with my mom, and I feel guilty if I don’t. I pay for my own food and I still feel bad if I don’t give her some. She never asks me for any.

Today we were trying to figure out dinner at the store and I picked up a TV dinner and said “I’ll have this.” She asked if there was just one serving and I said yes. I paid for it with my own money. But now I feel bad that there is only one serving and I feel like I should have bought something for us to share.

I just have to give my mom some of my food. It’s like I can’t not do it.

She doesn’t share her food with me. A few weeks ago I gave her half of my Italian beef, and the next day she had this leftover prime rib from a dinner meeting a couple of days before. She did not offer any of it to me. I know she shouldn’t have, but I felt kind of bad.

How do I get over this? This constant need of sharing?

[MickeyCheeky]

Perhaps first you need to ask yourself why you do this. Does this happen only with your mother or with other people as well? Does this happen only with food?

Hey Bozdickens, my first thought was, "I wonder if she feels like she has to share because of some kind of financial worry." I don't know why I wondered, I just did. So my same question is to you.

MickeyCheeky's question is valid! Why do you think you feel the need to do it?

Also, it's understandable to me, that you might feel a little miffed, that you share all your food with your mom and she does not share with you.

[Mountaindewed]

Yes only with my mother.

It’s mostly with food. Although I felt guilty that I am not able to share my employee discount with her. But if I did that I would get fired if the people at work found out.

I guess I just worry about her dying so I try to make myself not feel guilty.

Perhaps having your mother with you when you eat/shop for food isn't the ideal time to spend time with her. I suggest developing a new routine that does not include food. Doing so may be rewarding.