[Aviza]

So the best way for me to move on from him, even though I'm not really ready is to on-line date. It's helping me not think of him every moment, but at the same time I'm comparing guys to him and I really loved him but he doesn't compromise and would make life really hard. I loved his body he was big and strong like an ox big, most guys are small in comparison even seemingly big guys aren't like him. I'll have to settle for a small stature guy.

I just don't know why he has such a hold on me it's lessoning but it still there, I'd jump in his arms in a minute if he only really wanted me to.

If you are still not over this guy, I'd say it's unwise to online date unless you are just looking for casual hookups. Why not experience being single for a while and get your life situation sorted out first?

[Aviza]

Because I've been single for my 30s got back into relationships in my 40s, and I hate being single. I have a high sex drive I'm not into casual hook ups, and masturbation only works so much.

The likelihood of you finding a mentally stable and driven partner at this point are slim. But if you prefer quantity over quality, by all means continue to pursue men in this way. You just may find yourself disappointed in the end.

[CelestialFlame]

I agree with scared here. Its best if you work on yourself first especially if you’re still hooked up about him as that wouldn’t be fair to whomever you’d date online.

Originally Posted by Aviza

So the best way for me to move on from him, even though I'm not really ready is to on-line date. It's helping me not think of him every moment, but at the same time I'm comparing guys to him and I really loved him but he doesn't compromise and would make life really hard. I loved his body he was big and strong like an ox big, most guys are small in comparison even seemingly big guys aren't like him. I'll have to settle for a small stature guy.

I just don't know why he has such a hold on me it's lessoning but it still there, I'd jump in his arms in a minute if he only really wanted me to.

Good luck with the online dating! Remember the bad times and that he didn't always treat you well.

[mote.of.soul]

Hi. Best of luck Aviza in the dating department. Just watch that your feelings don't go down the same path as they did before. Pull back if you feel that happening, so you don't get hurt.

[MickeyCheeky]

Hope things will go well for you. Just know that it will take time to find the right match. Be patient.