MIL is driving me crazy, anyone here that has simular trouble?

My MIL is 80, lives with us, won't do anything she is asked to help herself. All she wants to do is run the roads. She won't take her medication like she is intended to. She took one of the lowest dose of a antidepressant, then wouldn't take any more. She is on carfagate for her reflux/ upset stomach, and is to take it before she eats, but takes it after, then complaines about her stomach, She takes atavan, so I took her to a therapist, and a Pdoc, and she got her rx's. Then she called her prevous Primary Doc. and had her refill her Ativan, and got 90 of them, when she should still had 1/2 of the last rx 0f 90, and got a rx from the Pdoc for 60 more, but she can't get that one filled until the 12 of June. All she wants to eat is sweets, and no she isn't a diabetic. She had sweets for breakfast, then this evening she was going to fix her a egg, and I talked her into having some veg beef soup, but she only took about 5 bites, then about a hour later she had a bole of cerial, and dumped the milk. She already has a hump on the top of her back, and won't do anything about it. She was told a couple years ago that she needs to ether take a daily pill for this or the 6 month shot, and she won't do ether. I was in the nursing field all of my working life, and this woman is driving me nuts. She won't do anything to help her self, so she can blame anyone else for her problems. I can't take her fake, non caring, lying, milipulation any more. She is causing my ulcers to come back from all the stress she is causing me. My H doesn't understand why I can't just let it all go. :mad :

Katydid I understand your frustration. I am a see a problem and go fix it person, so your MIL would drive me nuts, too just on the face of it but I have this sense th a t she knows exactly what she is doing(?). What can you do to take care of you. It's not always easy to let it roll off your back.
Can you divorce yourself from her care? I would think your husband can see this isn't working for you. Can you tell him you need a break and HE
needs to do all her errands.

Honestly my MIL so far has been pretty minimal work,but I often say I have already cared for my elderly parents so he needs to now take care of his mom. I will coach him, but she is his responsibility and his brother's.We have been married 25 years and this has worked. Mind you there were many times it would have been faster and easier to do for her myself, but if that happened then i would own it forever.
Hoped this helped. I am in your corner!

I agree. It is very hard to turn lose, but just try a little every day. Let her do what she wants and make it your husband's responsibility, not yours.

Stress broke me down inside and out. Please don’t let your MIL do it to you.