[JoeS21]

What are some suggestions about dealing with life altering failure that cannot be undone and that was due to someone else's evil deed? It's so difficult to not be suicidal, depressed, and furious. Has anyone else coped with something like this before?

I am on SSDI and cannot afford counseling either.

[Shazerac]

I’m sorry to hear you are suffering right now.

If financing is an issue is there some sort of self help group you can join? Without knowing what happened I can’t really give you any specific advise.

[BLUEDOVE]

Been there. Try this book:"Self-Compassion" by Kirstin Neff,
she has website too. Put all your energy into being kind and
caring to yourself. You are SEPARATE from this person and what they did,and though painful,it is YOU who is giving you
pain NOW; and it is only you who can alleviate it . . .when you
think you've suffered enough and decide to pack it in and LIVE!
COURAGE+Compassion,
BLUEDOVE

[ShadowGX]

There's options for low-income people to get counseling. My mom currently works at such a place. It's a non-profit Christian ran organization, but you have the option of non-religious counseling and she has had many clients who opt out. If you can't pay, you don't. Her paycheck comes from donations and the few who can pay. If you can pay, you pay based on income. I asked her how someone could find something like where she works and she said to search Google for something like "pro bono counseling" for your area. She also said you can negotiate cost with many agencies.

As for what I personally advise as someone who has endured a lot of things other people have done to her and had a hard time coping... Just try to remember that it's on THEM, not you. Yes, now you have to worry about fixing it, but the first step is realizing you didn't deserve what they did and it's ok to be mad at them for it. Healing is a lot of being kind to yourself, which I know is very hard sometimes... I struggle with hating myself because so many other people hate me so I know it's easier said than done.