Can someone have to much love to give??Is this a problem??

So far it almost feels like I got to much love to give but I cannot help it.I love helping people .Sometimes I Have been told that they dont want my help. I dont understand why. I feel the need to want to love and help others,It is part of who I am. I was told that loving and caring about someone is not the same thing ,I know but if I didnt love someone I wouldnt care about them,I just wish I could open up my arms and hug everyone. Maybe I am to sensitive,but what is so wrong with wanting to spread my love around? I just dont get it. Even my mom who always seemed to criticize me even told me I am a good person and I will be rewarded I dont want to be rewarded.I just want to love everyone. I really dont see how loving someone is a problem,Hey there are some who dont even want to hug me,so what is so wrong with hugging? I know when someone hugs me it makes me feel good inside. I get a nice warm feeling inside,{ no it isnt gas.} lol see I do have a sense of humor.I wish I could help everyone here.Sometimes I often wonder why I was even born but as my friend pointed out numerous times I am here for a reason,ya to Love one another.
Sorry so long of a post.I just care so much. what is wrong with that.I have been told that I worry to much well that is a big of anxieties especially for me.MY mom worried a lot to ,I often wonder if my anxieties ran n the family but I can see it didnt ,why do I have to be the only one in my family to have anxieties? I think my mom had some ,she was a very nervous and moody person, Anyway I love you all. Hugs to all of you. GOd bless you,all.

My heart goes out to you. You are someone the world needs much, much more of.

I am, by nature, a deeply loving person. I love to love. I love to give. When I was a teen I used to say to myself, "I want to save the world" (whatever that meant ).

Sadly, I've been burned, hurt, and misunderstood so many, many times by people who don't seem to know how to accept love, or give it. I won't stop loving, but I've become quite reclusive and not as kind as I once was. It saddens me.

Be proud of yourself for this. However, remember to give love to the most important person in your life - yourself.

I have the same problem of caring too much and have been abused because of it. Now my heart is hard and it takes much longer for people to get my love, but when they do it overwhelms them... Seems like no one wants it, so I may as well just hide it.

Love is for the beloved.

If the beloved doesn’t want help or hugs, though, then a loving thing to do to respect their choice and find someone who welcomes the help or hugs.

Some people think it is strange to want to help others oh believe me I have been made fun of and picked on because of it,why cant some people seem to realize that all we want is to be a good person and to share our love. Sometimes being to kind doesnt really pay,you know what my mom use to tell me if you are nice to someone they will be nice to you,that is not true ,

Dont ever hide your love,you seem like a very compassionate person,we need more people like that.

Thank you I try my best to be the best person I can be

This is off topic but I am very depressed lately it seems like I have been breaking down a lot not just crying but yelling to,part of my bipolar and mood swings,I dont know what happened to me this all started like last Friday early in the morning,i thought I was over my moms passing but I guess I am not.I cry so easily I almost didnt want to get out of bed,my days have been so awful now I got cable but no sound just my luck they are coming tomorrow to fix it thank god for a dvd player,I watch Bad Moms Christmas because it is so funny I love Justin Hartley.I also usually watch the George Burns and Gracy Allen show early in the morning about 6 because it is so funny and I find that comedy helps with my depression some,I haven t been sleeping all to well either. Luckily for me I did take about a two hour nap today, but all I want to do is cry.I feel so all alone My friend who usually sits with me three times a week hasnt been able to I hope she will tomorrow but Thursday she never does stay,errands to do but she was home today soI am praying tomorrow she can stay,I depend on her so much,she makes me relaxed laugh,and I love her so much.If not Friday I will have to wait when she left last Friday I completely lost it I just cried and cried and cried. Felt like I was losing my mind. I think it is because she couldnt stay all week I so needed to talk to her on Sat but for some strange reason she doesnt want me calling I think it is because she sits with me three times a week so what I really dont see what difference that makes, But she let me know not to call. Her other friend can but I cannot,seems unfair doesnt it. Well I love you all just needed to vent.I asked my other friend for a hug today and she gave it to me.I so needed a hug I could even use some more now

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

(((((xmascarol)))))

Do you see a therapist to help with the depression and grief?

If speaking with people from home might help, one idea is to call a listening line such as Caring Contact, Caring Contact - We're Here To Listen

I'm so sorry for your loss, that must be so difficult.

Seems those with big hearts, ready to give and give and give (like me..) are also hurt often (like me...)

Hugs for everyone in this thread

NO cannot afford a therapist and I dont like them anyway I have been to like five different ones they were of no help at all. I feel worse when I leave there office thank you for that contact site I will look it up

You know since my husband died 14 years ago I have been having a very hard time that is because he use to do just about everything for me and now I have to do it myself. My mom just before she passed away,she use to tell me she wishes she could come over and help me out .At 90 I told her we should help her out believe me if I could I would have,but I am homebound, and can barely get around.. I miss her like crazy I do have her picture near me.Before she died she didn't want to speak to anyone including me,so I never got to talk to her two weeks before she passed but she knows that I loved her,she was so very sick . I hope when I get old I dont get like that ,dont eat wont take my meds,sleep all day no will to live I told my children if I ever get to be where I dont care if I live or die then let me go. Believe me there are times now when I cant take it anymore but I have no desire to end my own life even though sometimes I think of it.

I feel so sorry for you,i know the feeling believe me,I am sending you a big hug Hug.

I am the same as you in this respect...it's just that some people don't like/want warmth. There's nothing wrong with you, you are a sweetie and there are plenty of others out there just like you. I adore my close friends too and there are hugs, kisses on cheek etc...only two and my parents buts that's it.

I'm just like you carol. I love too much sometimes but I just don't expect the same from them. Love is always unconditional. Nobody in the world is supposed to understand each other because nobody can everybody is so unique. Loving brings peace, harmony and joy. So i hope you don't change your nature. The world needs more people like you.

I dont like therapist I have been to five and none of them were of any help.They told me I have to get out more despite the fact I suffer from agoraphobia really bad.I can sit outside for about three hours but to go somewhere ugh.That is a big improvement for me because I could never go outside before. It is a very scary world for me.

xmascarol you are a wonderful person...you put me to shame...

Personally I love hugs but that being said I but family and Very good friends only. If someone outside that circle hugged me I would consider it a boundary issue. Also as far as being helpful to people: I have CP and use a walker. If I had a nickle for every person who thought they were helping me when I asked them not to do so( because honestly it is not helpful to me and has the potential to cause me harm for example a fall) I would be pretty well off financially. The game away here: if you see an elderly or disabled person and really feel like you have to jump in and help ASK what you can do to be helpful to them and WAIT for a response. That would truly be helpful !!