[joshua2402]

My mom is extremely emotionally immature and the way she reacts to situations and handles everyday life could easily be compared to a 5 year old. Unfortunately, I am not an adult yet, so I am currently living with her despite my desire to leave. She has been diagnosed with severe depression and sometimes takes her meds and sometimes doesn’t. She literally wakes up at whatever time during the afternoon usually and just continues to watch TV or sleep. She refuses to admit she has a problem meaning she will never get help. If you try and confront her about it she will just scream at you to shut up or something of the sort. Does anyone have advice for dealing with a mom like this on a day to day basis? I only have about a year and a half left living here until I move out. I want to have a good relationship with her because our relationship is not even as close as some of my friends. But I am not willing to mend that relationship until she receives help.

[nicoleflynn]

Don't talk to her about her behavior; she will only/always get angry. Is there anyone you could live with? If you are in school; speak to the counselor. You can also read about verbal abuse: The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. You could speak with a social worker.

[MickeyCheeky]

Is there anyone else in the family that you can reach out to?

[Overit2316]

It is super smart to be setting boundaries for yourself! As for dealing w/ her, I find that if I visualize people's words as objects and think of the positive things as something I want to pick up and cherish and the negative things as trash that I wouldn't ever pick up unless I was just putting it in the trash can, it helps me. I often remind myself, it is a choice to pick up verbal trash and this has helped me deal w/ toxic roommates that I have been stuck w/ in the past, and my Mom when I have had to have vacations w/ her as an adult. Hang in there!

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by nicoleflynn

Don't talk to her about her behavior; she will only/always get angry. Is there anyone you could live with? If you are in school; speak to the counselor. You can also read about verbal abuse: The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. You could speak with a social worker.

Addiction to tv and constantly being told to “shut up” - sounds familiar