[Fuzzybear]

I’ve never been the squeaky wheel in real life. I was taught “well” that asking for help or support is a sign of .......

Over here (irl) people have to literally scream to be offered “help” and that just is not my style. It’s degrading. And they are so generous with their labels and mean with any meaningful support.

There is nothing funny about that. It disgusts me.

[Mendingmysoul]

Yep fuzzy,I can relate.Asking for help feels degrading and sometimes I think unrealistically that somebody is gonna rescue me. It never happens in IRL.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul

Yep fuzzy,I can relate.Asking for help feels degrading and sometimes I think unrealistically that somebody is gonna rescue me. It never happens in IRL.

I've sort of felt that too, at least wanting to be listened to and respected.... maybe even somewhat understood. It sucks when people irl don't do that, especially if that is supposed to be their job.

[Breaking Dawn]

Yes, it really is hard sometimes.

Hugs. I'm glad you at least have PC to come to. If it's not overstepping, I'd like to say: don't give up hope.

Edit: I also just thought of something. I live in the US, but I didn't always have access good counselors. I've had horrid and abusive counselors. And while now I'm getting the help I need, I have had to fight for it and...I guess sometimes be a squeaky wheel. I'm not entirely sure what a squeaky wheel IS. But I definitely advocate for myself, assert myself, stick up for myself, and know my rights now!! Its really helped. And, while I'm getting the good counseling I need now, I still don't much care for my pdoc. But she's in the same practice and its sort of out of my hands atm. Making do...

I'm not saying that it may be just as easy for you. It may not be, I don't know. I think you live in the UK? Hugs. Just know you're not alone and even your country is not alone in poor mental health care sometimes. Including access to good care. Hugs!!!!!!!

[LilyMop]

I might be getting squeaky with age. I even squawk sometimes. Either way you’re in a tough spot. You are a quiet doormat or a squeaky annoyance. With the right people, you can be yourself but you can’t always control which people you are around.

[Breaking Dawn]

Isn't that the truth. It's extremely hard sometimes.