Happiness

Being with someone you can talk openly with and they do not judge you. They accept you for who you are. I had that with not many people..and now there are none who will understand,maybe i have kept it hidden from myself as well..I do not know but this Pain i feel in my heart from first rejection and they say make an honest note to yourself ( Hugs)

"Being with someone you can talk openly with and they do not judge you. They accept you for who you are." I can't even imagine what that would be like... From what you wrote, it sounds as though you did perhaps have this at one time. I hope that, in some way, you will be able to find it again.

I had that with my husband I felt ,and at different times in my life with different people who were close ,and now so much.If its meant to be it will,I am not looking for more than a girlfriend i can go places with now and then. Someone i can bond with and have a good laugh as well..

For some strange reason, I have found these people tend to come and go over time. People move into and out of my life regularly over the long haul. It just seems to be the way it is for me. It's kind of sad, to me. There's just almost no-one there long-term. It's weird.

I think in our world now it is more difficult to share emotional and intellectual closeness. It is what some people might say is "uncool".

Personally I am thinking closeness is difficult to find in part because I think many people have a hidden agenda. They do not always say who they really are and what they really are looking for. Or maybe closeness is something that I am not willing to open up to after many losses. I cannot be sure.

But one result of all that is I have had to get to know myself better. And that has made a lot of difference. @CANDC

I feel like this all the time.

Well... there are 2 people who I think know everything about me and don't judge me. I don't knowingly keep any secrets from either of them. I have learnt to be very cautious though having been hurt so many times (since early childhood). My parents were quite extraordinarily secretive. That and other things were very harmful to me. I'm sorry you're struggling. I hope you find happiness again.

Being alone is hard. People say go out and meet "new" people..and make friends that way. Is it harder for older people to "make friends?

I have experienced this same thing. Most people don't stay. They come and go. I feel sad about it.

I found from my past experience that these feelings do not completely go away. It’s part of the human condition. We are social beings. We all desire a deep connection with someone. While these feelings are uncomfortable I think of them as a necessary evil. It means I am still human and haven’t grown bitter with life. It helps me keep hope that I still have a heart that is worthy to share with someone.

One marvellous pick-me-up is keeping a Happy Box. This can radically boost feelings of positivity. It will instantly improve your mood. I am always on the look-out for things to go into our boxes.

Keeping a box containing photos of friends, family and pets, a playlist of favourite songs, books that you love, photos of your country, colouring books, a Thank You card, even. Personally, I'd be at my happiest on the beach with a cocktail.

Here's a sweet little video.