[HereForAFriend]

So this is my second post, and it is not regarding me, I don't know if this is the proper topic to post this in, so you might see me getting this out topics that I feel fitting for this problem.
So, I feel like the friend I have started this account and joined this community for's situation is getting worse, He is in the loneliest place he has been in his life, so I did my best to think what would help him with that and contacted another friend on the internet that I know would keep him interesting company and spout a supportive word here and there, as he is really looking for making a meaningful connection who can be open and honest with and vent to besides me. but, regrettably, I told the other friend that i'm worried for him and that he is skirting the edge of suicide, She toke on the mission and they talked for a bit, and it went great...until all of the sudden he was attacked by the unshakable feeling that she is only talking to him because of his situation, and she doesn't really care for him. While she admitted to him and me and really doesn't come across as lying that she genuinely enjoys his company, rendering his suspicions to be untrue, yet he has made his ears deaf to our convincing attempts, and couldn't stand the possibility anymore, and removed her from his friends list, now his faith in me has shaken and I suspect he is even in a worse place then he started, all because of some proven paranoia about attention because of his situation, not because he deserves it.
How do you deal with someone with that mindset? How do you convince him to believe someone is actually, according to his words, prevents HIS suicide, and not A suicide?

[Yaowen]

You are a wonderful friend.

I wish I had some good advice for helping your friend when he is in the mindset you describe. Not sure what country you live in, but I think there are crisis hotlines in almost every country and one doesn't have to be suicidal to contact them. One can usually call a crisis hotline for someone else or for help in learning how to help someone who is in trouble. Do you think that is something to consider?

If for some reason you contact someone on a crisis hotline who is not helpful, for whatever reason, ask to speak to someone else.

Depression can make a person hard to talk to. This is not the fault of the depressed person, but of the depression. Crisis hotline personnel can often be helpful in these situations.

I wish I had something better to offer you. Hopefully others will.

I hope your friend will not do anything to harm himself . That would be so tragic and such a terrible loss!

[mote.of.soul]

Hi,

I think you're doing pretty much everything you can do for your friend. You've reached out, been there for him, tried to let someone else help, as well, so, I think just continue to stay in touch with him. Just continue to the kind of friend you are to him. At the end of the day, he has to make the final choices for his personal welfare and you can only carry him so far.

As I say, just continue to be a supportive friend, it's all anyone can ask for.

[lady411]

It seems to me that you are being a great friend. You’re showing him that you are concerned and that you care and are there for him. It is the fog of depression that is not letting him see that. In fact it’s got its grip on him so bad that it’s making him think you are a threat. This is not your fault. And it’s important not to push too much because it might actually make it worst.
Maybe just give him some space but pop your head into his world every now and then letting him know you’re there for him when he needs you. Bring him a nice treat or invite him out for coffee see if he’ll accept.
Best wishes and stay safe.