[thekingof8]

How do you deal with or move on from bad decisions and outcome? I'm still having trouble dealing with fall out from:

School: I was sponsored by Second Career, but my funding was cut after I had to take time off due to wisdom teeth surgery and grieving the sudden loss of a close friend.

Hospital Housekeeping Job: After I was told to change careers due to health issues, I got a good paying job at the hospital. With it being casual, I thought I could take my time to recover from my cooking experience and learn something new. After one training shift, they tried to get me to quit after I couldn't keep up with the rude and abrupt trainer.

There are more, but those two are the most recent. I had high hopes for both and yet they came crashing down.

It's like my life is an hour glass. The sand is all of my hopes and dreams, but there is something blocking the middle of the glass and I don't know what it is. Is it fear of failure? Fear of history repeating itself? Fear of massive change?
I wanted to start my own baking business, but I'm not sure anymore. I don't know what I want anymore. I'm tired of all these barriers and setbacks and having to wait and waste my time.

[Have Hope]

The way I see it in general (when looking at what we perceive as a "mistake") is that we can learn from our mistakes so that we can do better the next go around -- to interpret them as learning opportunities and experiences for further growth and self improvement.

From the two experiences that you shared, it seems that the situation was mostly out of your control and hands. Your wisdom teeth had to come out, and you had to have surgery. You also lost a friend, and had to grieve. These are interruptive life experiences that unfortunately came into play while you were in school. It doesn't seem like you made a mistake, but rather that life circumstances were forced upon you, and you had to leave.

In the second experience, yes, it seems that perhaps you could have worked harder and maybe not have adopted the approach that you could take your time and recover from another experience. So there is your lesson -- that when we work, the best approach is to work hard and to earn respect where we work and with our colleagues. So perhaps you can learn something valuable from that experience. What was out of your control and hands is how the trainer approached the situation with you- you said he was rude and abrupt -- and it sounds like he barely gave you a chance after just one shift. So his attitude you cannot control, but you can control how you approach your work the next time.

Don't let disappointments ruin your outlook for the future. Learn from them, pull yourself back up, get back on that horse, and try it again. That's all we can do!!

[thekingof8]

With the hospital, it was me going back to work too soon. The way I worded it might have made me sound like I was slacking, but I wasn't. I did work hard and give it my all. I just think I bit off more than I could chew.

[MsLady]

Originally Posted by thekingof8

The way I worded it might have made me sound like I was slacking, but I wasn't..

Keep trying with your new job. Maybe talk with the trainer and explain this. Can you find ways to mourn your loss in a way that it doesn't interfere with work?

There are Facebook groups where people make and sell local items. In my city, this FB page is really successful and there are multiple bakers. Consider looking in your area and pur yourself out there. Start small.

[WastingAsparagus]

Sometimes external circumstances dictate our reality. I feel like they don't have to, though. I am struggling with decisions, though not in the same way as you. Admittedly, I have trouble making decisions going forward.

External circumstances may dictate external reality, but I guess what I'm trying to say is, they don't have to make us feel a certain negative attitude towards ourselves.