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Idk if it's the fact that the love in a friendship is never reciprocated but I've started to hate meeting people cause I just expect them to not last in my life... is that a bad way to think? Or is it reality?
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Well, I don't think it's an unusual way to think @BornTired1, put it that way, and if it has been your reality, then there's really no need to doubt that.
My main problem is meeting people at all. And then when I finally do make a connection and start getting to know them better, I begin discovering ways about them - that weren't apparent in the beginning - that make me wish I didn't begin getting to know them in the first place. Because it means I now have to dissolve the relationship in a way that won't hurt their feelings - if that's even possible. I'm in that predicament now with two people I met in a support group type setting. Yeah, it's very tiring, BornTired1. Very tiring. |
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I find that it's not impossible to find true friends, but they are rare. A lot of people just use others for their own gain.
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Why is it not lasting? What sort of things do you do with your friends?
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They're busy with relationships or kids or they're into partying... I'm more into traveling & going to the movies or out to eat so I guess we're not on the same page and don't speak as much
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This is my first day on the forum, and my first message, so I say hello to all.
As a middle-aged single woman who never wanted kids or pets, I find it very difficult to make friends my age, or to be able to spend much time with my married-with-kids friends. Most of my newer friends are in their 30s, which I judge as "wrong," not that there is anything inherently wrong with it, I suppose. My best friends seem to be the ones I knew before my BPD presented; I tell I have it and say "sorry" once for any times I'm a bit off, such as my hypomanic and distractible days, and they accept it and love me. I can count all those friends on one hand. |
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