[LilyMop]

This morning looked through my old posts and came across so many supportive posts from folks here at PC over the past several months. I’m so appreciative of the wisdom and the help I’ve received here.

I found my post from around the holidays when you all gave me kind and also some funny advice about coping with people asking me probing questions about my holiday plans. Reading that post brought up a good memory about a difficult time.

Yesterday a friend asked probing questions about my family again. I hadn’t seen her in a while and she has no idea just how bad things have gotten. She wouldn’t stop pressing for information even when I repeatedly changed the subject. I felt sad but I also felt at peace at the same time. I’ve worked a lot with my counselor on healing from all the family issues and accepting things the way they are. I no longer have expectations that things will change and I’ve worked very hard on peace, forgiveness and acceptance.

I didn’t want to tell the story about all the new family problems to my friend. I never press her when she doesn’t want to talk about a subject so I’m not sure why she presses me for further information... she is a kind person and very wrapped up in her own family so I just took it as she doesn’t understand.

Anyway, once again I took your advice. I shrugged off the pressing questions and redirected the conversation back to her. It really isn’t that hard to do. I don’t want to spend the holidays feeling heartbroken like I did last year so I’ve already started thinking about how to cope with the probing questions that inevitably pop up quite a bit at that time of year.

[bpcyclist]

We all love you, Lily!!

So, listen, it sounds like this pal is not very adept at following social cues. It may just be the case that at some point, you have to get direct with her and tell her to stop asking probing questions about stuff you do not wish to discuss.

[LilyMop]

Originally Posted by bpcyclist

We all love you, Lily!!

So, listen, it sounds like this pal is not very adept at following social cues. It may just be the case that at some point, you have to get direct with her and tell her to stop asking probing questions about stuff you do not wish to discuss.

Thank you

[TunedOut]

Originally Posted by LilyMop

....Yesterday a friend asked probing questions about my family again. I hadn’t seen her in a while and she has no idea just how bad things have gotten. She wouldn’t stop pressing for information even when I repeatedly changed the subject. I felt sad but I also felt at peace at the same time....

Sorry I recently saw this LilyMop. You haven't posted for a while but it is good to see your post.

I think we have both healed some from our family relationship issues. I have gotten better at figuring out what my stuff is verses what was their stuff. I now don't share as much as I used to because I am learning to be more careful about sharing other people's stuff and since some of my stuff and their stuff is commingled sometimes it is best to just keep quiet about my stuff.

[LilyMop]

Originally Posted by TunedOut

Sorry I recently saw this LilyMop. You haven't posted for a while but it is good to see your post.

I think we have both healed some from our family relationship issues. I have gotten better at figuring out what my stuff is verses what was their stuff. I now don't share as much as I used to because I am learning to be more careful about sharing other people's stuff and since some of my stuff and their stuff is commingled sometimes it is best to just keep quiet about my stuff.

I’m glad you’re doing well. Yes, it does look like we are both healing. And yes, there is so much “stuff” to avoid that I really don’t know what to say about anything anymore. Sometimes I just babble or mutter and I give up. Lol!