[WovenGalaxy]

Christmas kind of sucked this year. It wasn't terrible, I spent it with my parents who I see everyday, just kind of boring. I also felt very left out. From relatives. From life. No one on Facebook seems to remember me and that I exist too. It makes me think, "geez, these ppl really aren't my friends." And I'm sick of seeing stupid **** posts from ppl who get like 100 likes. Maybe time to unfollow some people. I know I should be grateful for those who Are in my life and those who Do care. But this Christmas was such a ****ing letdown.

[will19]

Sorry to hear about your Christmas. Mine wasn't very stellar, either. In fact, I have spent decades of Christmases alone and this year was no exception. There are times when I wonder if I'll ever spend Christmas with anyone in the future.

What's really painful are people saying "Merry Christmas" to me. I don't know how to react. It seems like those who say that are the ones who seem to have a great Christmas. Not for me, by far.

One guy at work asked me what will I be doing. I told him that I will be alone. He said that he would be alone, too, because his wife is stranded in Canada. He told me that he would invite me to his place next year. Well, why couldn't he have given me the invitation now? Besides, I wouldn't feel comfortable being with a couple when I'm by myself. And then my friend said that I should have asked him to get together with me this year. I have a hard time initiating things, especially to co workers that I don't know that well.

I guess that a lot of people have bad Christmases. To me it always seems like everyone else has it better than I do.

[Yaowen]

Dear WovenGalaxy,

I am sorry your Christmas was a letdown. I can definitely identify with that. Let's hope the coming year and the next Christmas will be better!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

[Open Eyes]

Actually, it's safer being alone due to how bad Covid is right now. People are not doing normal gatherings anyway as it's very risky.

[WovenGalaxy]

Also I'm sick of being alone and being ok with it. I'm not ok. I have no ****ing partner or kids. And I'm not alone, I know that. But I also feel that I give much more to some people than they deserve, including trying to cultivate relationships with extended family who do not actually care to return / have a relationship with me. I'm fighting the urge to be passive aggressive in a Facebook post. I will pause until the urge passes.

[WovenGalaxy]

Thank you YaoWen. Open Eyes, I know, that's why we did Chritmas the way we did. Doesn't make me feel any better.

[Discombobulated]

Wovengalaxy I'm sorry your Christmas was not too good.

I generally feel Christmas is overblown, although don't get me wrong I like many of the traditions. But expectations can be hyped up, the movies, the TV, yes and Facebook.

Sometimes I disable Facebook on my phone, I can find it quite jarring in many ways. I think I get drawn to it because I want to connect but true connection doesn't happen there. I notice this year many people either stopped posting or left.

Anyhow, you rode it out and made it to the other side, hope that you can feel a little better for that.

[RoxanneToto]

I’m also sorry your Christmas was not good, Woven Galaxy!

[WovenGalaxy]

Thanks @Discombobulated yeah, all of what you said is true. I think I will disable FB on my phone. You're right. Its not the way to connect. Its shallow and superficial. It can be a good way to stay in touch with some. But not to form relationships and sustain them, no. I think covid has me all mixed up and feeling isolated. I miss my extended family. But I also know people in my life care and I care too. I've been struggling in general with my mood, the past few days too, but that's something that should be a passing thing and no need to get into the lovely hormonal details. Yes. I am glad Christmas is over and I will be deleting the FB app from my phone, reaching out irl, and self caring the crap out of this week.

[MickeyCheeky]

So Sorry your Chistmas hasn't been that good, Woven! These are hard times so no surprise to see other people struggling. Personally i feel like it's not worth wasting time or stressing out or paying that much attention or listening to what other people whom clearly don't care about us think. Better to spend our time with people whom TRULY Love us and care about us, right? Try to avoid facebook and other social media if they make you feel bad! SEnding many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @WovenGalaxy, your Family, your FriEnds and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

[Thunder Bow]

Smart Phones are our Fidget Spinners. Thus we are more apart than ever. Don't put to much emotional investment into what you read on them.

[WovenGalaxy]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

So Sorry your Chistmas hasn't been that good, Woven! These are hard times so no surprise to see other people struggling. Personally i feel like it's not worth wasting time or stressing out or paying that much attention or listening to what other people whom clearly don't care about us think. Better to spend our time with people whom TRULY Love us and care about us, right? Try to avoid facebook and other social media if they make you feel bad! SEnding many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @WovenGalaxy, your Family, your FriEnds and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

@MickeyCheeky thank you. That is excellent advice my friend. That really hits me in the heart, and its so true, Thank you.

[WovenGalaxy]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

Smart Phones are our Fidget Spinners. Thus we are more apart than ever. Don't put to much emotional investment into what you read on them.

That is a really good analogy.

[Breaking Dawn]

Dear WovenGalaxy, I also love what MickeyCheeky said. And it's good that you brought this topic up, so we can discuss it like this, & end up feeling less alone, having each other like this. Thank you, everyone!!

[Mountaindewed]

I’m sorry WovenGalaxy.

My Christmas day wasn’t bad I got everything I asked for and people were happy with their gifts. But I am just in such a bad place mentally right now. Nothing is helping me at all.

I hope things get better for you.

[WovenGalaxy]

@Mountaindewed I'm sorry you're struggling and hope it gets better for you too.

@will19 I'm sorry about that guy from your work. I hope things are better now that Christmas is over.