[Gyonna]

I'm aggressive to a baby with words. I don't want to speak like this to him, but it is an anger issue. I never speak like this to anyone.. baby is just 11 months old. My mother did this to me all her life, swearing and getting angry, I don't want this for my kid. How I can stop? I try to be more thoughtful, but it didn't work. Please help with some advise. I always could work stuff alone, but this is crazy hard for me. I'm just like my mother.

[CANDC]

@Gyonna welcome to MSF. I am sorry you are having challenges managing your responses to the baby and the demands it makes on you.

I am not an expert on how to handle anger. I resort to leaving the room for a half mitnute to calm myself or connect with my breath.

Here is an article in Psychology Today that has some ideas what to do How to Handle Your Anger at Your Child | Psychology Today

This line in the article really stuck out for me "The most important thing to remember about anger is NOT to act while you're angry."

CANDC

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[Nammu]

The thing is if your mum did that with you this is a learned behavior and it takes time to un-learn behavior. I’d suggest working with a therapist to May small changes that lead to stopping this behavior. Maybe a T who deals with anger management?

[divine1966]

I recommend to work with a therapist. Sadly you were abused by your mother but I am sure you s don’t want your child to be abused. You can get better