[black-roses]

I've been thinking about my home situation and I feel like my mum is overparenting me that I feel so anxious and suffocated. I wish she'd stop worrying so much about if I'm able to do the work. I understand that she worries about my concentration but I feel suffocated with her yelling commands at me. I don't feel she treats me like an adult but views me as someone that has an impairment. The ironic thing is the more she yells the more my brain forgets and zones out. So while she thinks she's helping me she's actually contributing to a bit to the add. I know I do things halfway but I can't work when people are yelling at me and it's just I wish I had the capacity but it's just too much for me to cope with. Also being told not to do this and that. I just feel discouraged and it makes me feel lost at times. It's almost like I have to reassure her that I know how to survive but she doubts me and that's a lot to feel that mum thinks that I still need to be parented like a child.

[CANDC]

@black-roses I hear you. Some parents live vicariously through their children. Rather than work on their own problems they make their life one of getting totally involved with their children. That to me is helicopter parenting.

There are simple solutions but often simple solutions will not work. If your mother would write down what she wants to tell you that could help if that is possible. Less yelling.

I go to the public library to work on things in silence. Having your own space is helpful. If I cannot have time alone in the day I restructure my schedule and do more while others sleep.

Whatever you decide, try not to judge your mom as inherently bad. She may mean well even if the result is not good. At least if you do not judge her that might help you not get so upset when she does yell.

I have to have lists to work from. That helps me focus even when things get stressful.