Feeling alone - a problem solving post

I'm feeling sad tonight. I don't usually post about my lows here anymore.

But I need to talk.

I'm feeling very alone.

I'm not sure where to start. I'm literally alone atm.

I visited my aunt earlier. It was just ok. I get the feeling she judges me for quitting my job. Sometimes I just feel bad around her (when that's the topic).

I quit my job in June. I'm looking for work now, yeah.

I think the main thing tonight, is I feel alone and lonely.

I need to be around other people. A community that resonates with me.

And there's...things I can do. To help myself. To feel more connected. They aren't things I feel like doing. I'm very unmotivated to go back to the knit group, and check out that Barre class. But I think those are things I need to do. Like taking medication - it's hard for some ppl to take their meds consistently to be well. For me, it's hard to be social even though it will help me. It's hard to *want* to be social. And I act on that (i.e. I sit home instead). But this causes loneliness.

It's important to be with the *right* ppl, too. If you're with the wrong group you may feel more lonely.

I'm going to go to the group. The class. Etc.
God knows I didn't have the energy to when I was working and in school.

Thanks for listening.

The exercise class went so well tonight. Glad I went!

Hey, thank you for sharing. No easy thing to talk about. I see loneliness as voids in someone's current life. That could mean lack of human connection, or perhaps in your case you are missing that spark/purpose in your life at the moment. Perhaps you are on a low at the moment, and you need human interaction to re-ignite your motivation and zest for life. I wonder where your inspirations lie, what it is that joins the dots and motivates you. I feel when we find the direction to our authentic growth/path things just click into place and we automatically start to feel better as we grow Spiritually. Personally I see Spiritual growth as where it's at, and it's a clear way forward and a driving force. I wonder if you were to ask yourself what areas would you most like to develop yourself in, you might find a direction that ignites new vigour. Hope this has been of some help.

This is really thoughtful and helpful. Thank you

You are welcome.

I’m so glad you went along and I understand what mean, I too struggle to want to be social and I get into a rut easily. If I didn’t push myself sometimes I’d stay right here in my cave except I know I’d suffer mentally for it.

It sounds like you’re adjusting to the changes after leaving your job which took up so much time and energy. Well done on weathering this change in pace, it’s no small thing.

Thank you

Sending hugs

I hope you went to the class— I agree with you and can definitely relate to what you said about it being hard to find motivation to do things that will help us. Ironic, isn’t it? I also agree that finding the right people for you is important, even more important than finding people to begin with, I feel. Me personally, I absolutely love being alone— take that how you like, but i just love the freedom and solitude. That being said, just knowing I have my tribe to turn to helps, even if it’s just a shoulder to cry on or an accomplice to help me hide a dead body (JOKE). I wish you the best.