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#61
It’s not for me to tell you what to do HH but I’d urge you to explore how you feel within yourself after looking at their social media? Do you feel better or worse? If the answer is worse (I’m going to guess it may be) then staying away from their pages at least or possibly even social media altogether might be a good idea. What do you feel?
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admittedly and sheepishly I can say it's very compulsive and obsessive on my part - I know it's not a good idea - but I want to see if he looks happy. And he hasn't posted ANY public pics of them on HIS profile, only SHE is posting pics public photos of them. What I also find to be interesting is he changed his background image yesterday, and it's a photo that he had taken when he was with me, of a flower garden when we picked sunflowers together. What does THAT say? Not only THAT, but photos of us together are still up on his profile, in his profile photos section - like 4 of them. So that's interesting too. Why hasn't he removed them? Please just humor me for a moment - what do you think all of these things mean or say? __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#63
I posted on my facebook abuse support group about it. They all basically said to not let my emotions get the best of me, to hold my head high, and to ignore him/them if I run into them in town. It's so freaking hard. I feel he is still abusing me, even a year and a half after our divorce, by moving so close to me and by being able to keep a close eye on me. It's so very triggering. I cannot help my anxieties when they come up. I still want to confront him in front of her about moving into my neighborhood. It's sooooo hard not to want to do that.
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#64
I'm so vengeful. I made "public" so he can see all my happy posts since our divorce. I want him to believe I am living the best life without him.
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If you focus on your ex and his gf it will take so much energy from you and the life you could be working on. |
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He did this on purpose. It was revenge. And he got his revenge alright. I am not living my best life - I am still living in the nightmare of him - I am reliving the nightmare of him, and he did this to me. How do I live comfortably, in safety and in peace, with him living right down the street from me, and with him being able to spy on me and my home as he pleases? It's a prison. I am back in his prison all over again and I cannot escape. 8 more months until I can move - how do I survive 8 more months of this HELL? __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#67
That’s a very tough situation, you are physically nearby, the only way you can escape at this time is through your mind. Keeping your focus on things other than him. At least until you can move away.
Is there any sort of project you can apply yourself to? Maybe something you always wanted to do but always put off? I find if I’m physically occupied and my mind is in practical mode I do better. |
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#69
Those ideas all sound good, we all need activities to keep us sane HH you’re certainly not alone. It’s time to focus on you and your well-being.
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What is getting me the most is knowing he did this to me on purpose, to steal my happiness and to make me miserable. And it's working. He wins. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#71
Well, there’s another aspect to consider, he hasn’t stopped you accessing mutual support through your good friend you mentioned here. He also is unable to stop you accessing support here at msf. He may have tried a power game but his power really is limited.
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