[BlissfulQueen]

No friends,No social interaction,my mom *****es at me all the time.I hate it,it makes me want to die.What should I do?

[silver_queen]

Maybe you could explain to her how it is making you feel and she can then enroll you at a high school? I'm sure she only wants the best for you, and if she realizes that you're not happy being homeschooled, perhaps she will find other ways for you to get a good education you are satisfied with.

I agree with Silver_Queen. Having a social network is very important for you now....talk to your parents and explain, calmly, how you're feeling. Good luck and come back here.......Pat

[BlissfulQueen]

I've been to all the schools in the district,I recently got kicked out of my last one.If I want to go back to public school I have to go back to my hometown one where everyone hates me and treats me like Carrie White,its a living hell.I actually had a choice homeschool or Beckville,I just cant take being picked on and treated bad everyday so I guess Im stuck like this.

[silver_queen]

How old are you? Will it be over soon?

Maybe you can negotiate with the person who schools you to make it more enjoyable for you?

[HALLIEBETH87]

see if there are any homeschool groups around where u can go and have school with others....and without your mom as a teacher!

[BlissfulQueen]

I dont think there are any,Im kind of secluded in a rural small town.

And whoever asked how old I am,I am 14 only in my freshman year.

[growingflower]

Are you really saying that homeschool sucks or are you really saying that you want to make new friends? It sounds like you are having trouble making friends even if you were in a school with a ton of kids. I could be wrong, but it seems like you are using homeschooling as an excuse. Nodays there are tons of homeschooled kids everywhere. Maybe your parents can help you find some groups. Even internet groups would be good too. It is up to you to get out there and make friends. My kids are homeschooled and they have a lot of social interaction with other kids. But I make a point to make sure that they are around other kids. This is part of the responsiblily of your parents if they deceide to homeschool you. Social interaction is very important to everyone.

[growingflower]

I also wanted to add, that just because you homeschooled, it doesn't mean that you can't meet other kids that go to public school. They are home after 3pm and thats a lot of time to meet new friends. Good luck!

[BlissfulQueen]

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Are you really saying that homeschool sucks or are you really saying that you want to make new friends? It sounds like you are having trouble making friends even if you were in a school with a ton of kids. I could be wrong, but it seems like you are using homeschooling as an excuse. Nodays there are tons of homeschooled kids everywhere. Maybe your parents can help you find some groups. Even internet groups would be good too. It is up to you to get out there and make friends. My kids are homeschooled and they have a lot of social interaction with other kids. But I make a point to make sure that they are around other kids. This is part of the responsiblily of your parents if they deceide to homeschool you. Social interaction is very important to everyone.

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NO IM NOT LYING,IM HOMESCHOOLED.I cant use internet groups because my mom limits my time.

[silver_queen]

She wasn't saying you're lying. She was just saying that you might be using the fact that you're being home-schooled as an excuse for not having friends. I'm not accusing you of lying either. If lack of friends is bothering you so much, talk to your mother about it. Since your time on the internet is limited, maybe you could talk with her to try to extend the amount of time you're allowed online - though you might not have much success with that, since I think many parents are dubious about the 'friends' their children met online. Even though you may feel like you can judge who is who online and you limit the personal information you exchange - parents often don't understand the dynamics of online relationships... or at least, not in my experience. growingflower suggested meeting students from local schools when school closes for the day - could you do that, maybe?

[jmo531]

Hi Blissful and Welcome to PC. Glad you found us.

I cant really speak from personal experience about being home schooled but my two younger step sisters were. I think it had it's benefits and it's drawbacks. However, my father thought that since they were being home schooled social interaction was very important as they were not getting it like a normal high schooler was. There were groups in the area for children that were home schooled. These groups would get together a few times a week and hang out. This was good for my sisters. They made some really great friends through this group. Just an idea. Talk with your mother and tell her how you are feeling. Ask her to do some research on home schooled kids in your area. Home schooling is very popular these days so I am sure there are tons of kids out there just like you...in need of interaction with their peers.
I wish you luck and please keep us posted on this.

[BlissfulQueen]

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She wasn't saying you're lying. She was just saying that you might be using the fact that you're being home-schooled as an excuse for not having friends. I'm not accusing you of lying either. If lack of friends is bothering you so much, talk to your mother about it. Since your time on the internet is limited, maybe you could talk with her to try to extend the amount of time you're allowed online - though you might not have much success with that, since I think many parents are dubious about the 'friends' their children met online. Even though you may feel like you can judge who is who online and you limit the personal information you exchange - parents often don't understand the dynamics of online relationships... or at least, not in my experience. growingflower suggested meeting students from local schools when school closes for the day - could you do that, maybe?

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i WANt to extend my internet time but i cant,im on a 4 hour limit )which yeah it seems like alot but in my case its not) because i threatned a rockstar and hav to be watched and monitored.PLUS my mom says that it snot "healthy" to have firends on ly onthe internet but yet she does NOTHING to get me socialized.

I guess I could meet kids from other schools but the only close school within a 30 mile radiusis this school and i dont know where id go to meet plus they all hate me an di dont want to be around that.i dont relate to alot of the kids here.theyre all hicks and think im sutpid because im smart and i differ from them.

Whoever said "find a local homeschool group",there ISNT one around here.the closest one is in like...Louisisana or whatever and its CHRISTIANLY own by these strict holy holy southern bptists that are the SAME kind of people in this town that despise me and cannot deal with that

Besides my mom would not drive that far very often.

im at a loss

[christopherm317]

I too was home schooled and on top of it all my Mom moved me out to the middle of no where just to teach me a lesson. Yeah girl I know what your going through. The only thing I can tell you. First off no its not having friends no its not bad education Just simply children learn better around other children Known Fact. So girl go get a job. Talking to my Mom did no good. Explaining to her how lonely and bored I was, Well that was a waste of breath. Just find some joint that has people your age and get the job. Convince your Mom how you think making your Own Money will help you learn. I did it and it worked. I too have a mother who b!tches a lot. A job was my only way out. If she lets you work eventual she gets used to not seeing you around. She will start being nicer to you and when and if you ask to go out she give you more respect. Cause you have had a job that's responsible. Hope this helps. But don't worry your not the only one having to go through this kind of chit.

[christopherm317]

Also just for you there are summer school jobs for young teens. Go to the local school and ask if they do this. Pick any local school. Each school has a program for teens. Only a hand full of teens work for the schools during summer. Hey I learned how to paint a ball field and measure out the dimensions. I liked my summer job really I mean my boyfriends dad was the boss but still a great time. I got to make fun of all the kids in summer school. Stood by the track making fun of all the kids. PS I was smoking and they told on me. I worked there The rules weren't the same for me. Check it out you might like it.

[Genevieve]

It sounds as though there's a bit more going on here than maybe you can see clearly. I'm old, so maybe my brain is going -- forgive me if these questions strike you as being irrelevant:

1. Are you getting any sort of therapy? It sounds as though individual and family counseling could be very helpful for you in this situation. (And don't tell me there are no therapy sources because you're in a rural area. I used to live in a rural area.)

2. You say that the students at your former school all hated you. Did you do anything to try to make friends there? If so, what did you try, and what was the result?

3. Could you talk to your mother about some sort of extra-curricular activity? Something that is related to an interest of yours, so that the other people involved share that interest with you? Maybe an art class, riding lessons, swimming lessons, 4H, FFA, a quilting class -- just something that interests you enough that you won't mind if you don't make friends there.

4. Check your local listings for any volunteer organizations in your area. If you like animals, often times the local humane society needs people to help with socializing animals, or cleaning cages, or whatnot. You can usually find an organization around that needs volunteers, and you can meet many people that way.

5. You mentioned that you were "kicked out" of your last school -- what sort of incident was involved? Not specifics, more a question of did you do something violent, did someone do something to you, was it related to your depression, etc.

6. Is this a new area for you? Or is this where you grew up? If you've moved recently, how recently? And what sort of area were you living in before?

7. Can you tell your pediatrician about this next time you see him? (Or her, of course.) Could you ask your mother to take you to the doctor to discuss your depression, and then talk to him about this situation? Trust me -- ANY reasonably competent doctor will tell her that she MUST do something to address this issue. It is very, very unhealthy for you to be this isolated. I would venture a guess that this is the absolutely best way for you to get some relief from your isolation, by the way. A doctor can say things to your mother that you just can't.

I guess I have to say that I do think that having friends IRL would do you more good than internet buddies, so I very much hope that something works out for you. Good luck.

Let me say it again: good luck. I hope things get better for you very soon.