first appointment

I'm going to see a counsellor today. This will be my first appointment. I'm crazy nervous -- I don't know why, I've been to counsellors before, but the first time is always a little nerve-wracking I guess. On top of that, I have to drop my brother off somewhere first and although I wanted to leave extra early (my nerves are already shot, I don't want to add being late into the mix...) he's being a jerk about it and we're leaving twenty minutes later than I planned to. It's taking everything I have not to scream.



Anyone have some cyber hugs? I could really use some right now ...

((justfloating))

Wishing you the best of luck at the counsellors today.
Think happy thoughts I'm sure you'll be just fine.

JUSTFLOATING
Hope your day goes well, I am thinking of you

Justfloating!

Hope all goes/went well with the new counsellor!

Sorry your brother is being such a pest!!

I agree, starting with a new therapist is a bit nerve racking...will I get along with this person, for a start.

To anyone all I can say is, be honest with a therapist. It is the only way to find the answer you are seeking, or that you didn't know you were seeking.



Let us know how it went today.

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kebs

Just me, but if I were in that situation I'd tell my brother he has 5 minutes to departure, then I'm leaving without him. And I would stick to my words.

How did it go?

Let us know how it went, still thinking of you

Yes - be honest with your therapist. The only way they can help us is if they know our true feelings. Good luck with your day. Hope your brother calms down.

I'm a little late to wish you luck... Hope it went well

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The appointment was ... okay, I guess. My counsellor is very nice and I feel comfortable talking to her, but it's not the same as talking to my counsellor at school, who I really miss. I can tell that this counsellor uses different techniques, and I'm a little apprehensive about that, but we'll see how things go. Today I came home with a bunch of relaxation exercises to try before my appointment next week.

I do wonder if anyone else has this problem, though (and it happened with my last counsellor too, so I'm thinking it's something to do with me): When I'm not with my counsellor, there are all kinds of thoughts bouncing around in my head. All kinds of feelings and observations about myself that I want to get across. But as soon as I set foot in the office, something gives way and I can't get myself to talk about most of them. I started out giving my general history today so she could get to know me, and I started talking about my family and then ... well, I just sort of got stuck there. I get stuck on my family a lot. And that's all right because my family does cause me a lot of stress and anxiety, and they need to be dealt with, but I feel like there are other parts of my life I'm neglecting as well that don't really have anything to do with that. But it's like whenever I go for an appointment, or whenever I'm talking to my closest friends about my depression, it comes back to my family and I can't seem to get myself out of that subject.

I don't know ... maybe my family has become "easy" to talk about as opposed to some of the other issues in my life. Maybe I'm just scared, or blocking something out. Going to therapy, for me, feels a lot like standing in the doorway of a room I haven't cleaned in so long I can no longer see the floor, and not having a clue where to begin.

[quote=justfloating;1097280 Going to therapy, for me, feels a lot like standing in the doorway of a room I haven't cleaned in so long I can no longer see the floor, and not having a clue where to begin. [/quote]

That is perfectly worded! Thank you for giving me a picture I can work with for the next my T asks what's top on my list. I often start with, "I dunno" even though all week I'd been thinking of stuff.

Hope the relaxation exercises help a lot.

Here is where printing out your posts comes in. When you yourself can not speak, your posts will do the talking for you. I know that telling someone how you feel face to face is hard. But I also sometimes find it hard to post here. As I think to myself: What will people here think, will I get any answers, do I really want to share my feelings, will I look stupid and so on. Just remember that no one can help us if they don't really know what is going on in our heads or how we feel. Hugs for your day.

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But as soon as I set foot in the office, something gives way and I can't get myself to talk about most of them.

I've had EXACTLY the same problem.

It's like we end up discussing OLD problems not the current ones. Part of it's that I'm afraid/too overwhelmed to face the current problem. Maybe this is a skill we need to work on, and therapy a perfect workshop in which we can figure out HOW to talk about these things

I'm very glad your appointment turned out okay.

I to my new therapist today at 2:00, sick to tummy about it.