[FeelingHopeful]

Right now I was looking for some advice. I hate my life right now. Im not going to do anything to myself. I would never but My heart is broken over a friend and Its hard to smile. He is pulling away and I dont know why or what I did wrong. Its not like him. So So Sad

[Lost71]

It's hard to say without more details but maybe he is pulling away coz he has issues with avoidance, socialisation, believing someone can really love him? I'm the same, always pulling away or pushing away. I'm sure you've done nothing wrong.

((((FeelingSad))))

[Naturefreak]

FeelingSad , that is a natural feeling when you lose a friend , sadness . Then you ask yourself WHY ? , with NO answers it only makes it worse. I'm glad you are NOT thinking of hurting yourself.
That is a wise choice. Like Lost71 said , you probably done nothing wrong or you would know it . Hope you feel better in time.
Take care of yourself . Hugs

[Rohag]

Hi, FeelingSad! I find the kind of situation you are in among the saddest and roughest of life. Sure, in time the pain subsides, but at first it can be suffocating.

Answers may or may not come, but take care of yourself first. Go ahead and be sad, AND try to pamper yourself with your favorite things.

*Rohag - you know you're no good at relationship advice; stop now before you put your feet in your mouth...*

[ACanthony1984]

Feeling Sad- I find myself the most depressed when the people closest around me (especially girls that I have feelings for) withdraw from me and don't act the way I want them to. When people don't act the way you want them to, it's usually not because of something that YOU are doing. Rather, it is the other persons' problems and insecurities manifesting themselves in this way. You are most likely not doing anything wrong. Continue to smile and be a loving person. Soon enough, you'll feel better. Change is a big part of life but I find that time heals allllll wounds. So give it time.

[FeelingHopeful]

Thanks Guys. Appreciate the support. Lost 71 what do you mean by avoidance? Any help on that is greatly appreciated.

[FeelingHopeful]

Thank you Babysteps and Rohag. Its hard because I constantly ask why . what happened, Its suffocating and hard to breathe at times.

[Lost71]

Originally Posted by FeelingSad

Thanks Guys. Appreciate the support. Lost 71 what do you mean by avoidance? Any help on that is greatly appreciated.

FeelingSad...avoidance just means you pull away when you feel someone is getting too close, feel you are not worthy etc. At least that's what it means with me.

Can somebody please add input if I have the wrong idea of avoidance? Ty.

[FeelingHopeful]

Acanthony1984 you said something interesting with if girls you like dont act the way you want them to. its not them . its insecurities. I dont know. I feel like it was me. After a big argument that lasted a bit he started to pull away. Do you think its what you said because maybe he thought i let him down? I feel sick on this and cant forgive myself.

[FeelingHopeful]

Thank you Babysteps and Rohag. Its hard because I constantly ask why . what happened, Its suffocating and hard to breathe at times.

[Catherine2]

Originally Posted by FeelingSad

Right now I was looking for some advice. I hate my life right now. Im not going to do anything to myself. I would never but My heart is broken over a friend and Its hard to smile. He is pulling away and I dont know why or what I did wrong. Its not like him. So So Sad

FeelingSad,
Times when I've been in this type of situation is when I've found it best to tackle it head on.
As hard as it may be, I feel better doing it. I may not like the answer, but at least I know...and can work through whatever it is.
If your friend choses not to discuss it with you, it is a reflection on them and not on you.

Sometimes there are no answers, which is tough.
Please be kind to yourself...

In Peace

[FeelingHopeful]

Thank you Catherine. Hes a great person so Im baffled by this. Not sure he even knows why. So lost.

[ACanthony1984]

To clarify, whenever I sense a girl I like is being withdrawn from me, a lot of it is because she thinks she might not feel like she deserves me. So I sense this and then because she's getting farther away from me, I think to myself that maybe I did something wrong and I don't deserve her? I would give it time. If it was meant to be he'll come back to you. If it wasn't, let it go. Good luck. But don't dwell on the past and what you could have done differently or what you could have said differently. You can't change the past so don't dwell on it. You'll really beat yourself up that way.

[FeelingHopeful]

I do beat myself up alot. Thanks for your advice. Means so much. I think he is just .going through some stuff. I know we will be friends always its just a rocky time now . I just miss him and dealing can be hard.

[ACanthony1984]

I'm sure if you had a heart to heart talk with him (hypothetically) he would tell you that the way he's acting is ALL because of him and it has very little (if any) to do with you. If he had a problem with you he'd probably tell ya because he cares about you. It stinks that he's going through some stuff and I bet you wish he'd come to you for help and get closer rather than withdrawing, but most people when they feel sad or lonely or depressed or hurt in any way, they withdraw from people. They just don't want to talk about it. I'm sorry you feel lonely and I'm very confident if he knew this in any way he'd probably change or atleast he would apologize. Just give it time though! Trust in yourself that it will work out in the end, because it surely will! You have to go through trials to get to where you want to be in life. Nothing gets handed to you. All is well.