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#1
Oct 27, 2009, 01:04 PM
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How do you make and then keep them?
Most of my friends have left me (I assume it's because they got sick of dealing with my crap). And now, I have trouble making friends because I feel like they're just gonna end up leaving me, so what's the point in trying to make them. (I hope that makes sense to somebody)
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Oct 27, 2009, 01:15 PM
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Hi Manda,
I've often wondered the same and your post does make sense to me btw.  Over the years I've had a myriad of "friend" go in and out of my life, some I knew for many years and now really have nothing to do with them and really only 1 person I've known for the last 16 years and even we're not as close as we once were. The thing is I think I'm beginning to learn for myself (though it may very well be wrong) is that people come in and out of your life as needed to teach us lessons. Sometimes they stay around for a while and sometimes it seems that the time with them just flies by. Maintaining a friendship is a two-way street just like any relationship. We can try as hard as possible but if the other person doesn't want or see us like that then they'll not respond as we think they should and/or leave. It's hard and devastating at times and you feel so betrayed but it seems to be the way it is. I've not real words of wisdom but maybe my post helps seeing the answer to your question in one particular light. I hope you have a very nice day. Chris
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Oct 27, 2009, 02:36 PM
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I'm not sure. Honestly. The people I usually have as friends usually stay so, but I don't have tons of them at all. That's just how it works with me.
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#4
Oct 27, 2009, 08:18 PM
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((((((Manda)))))
I know what you mean about not trusting other people because you have been burned in the past. I find it really hard to trust people that they will be there for me in the long run. If you figure this out can you let me know? 
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Oct 27, 2009, 08:45 PM
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not sure what to tell ya
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Oct 27, 2009, 09:01 PM
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I understand what you are talking about. I haven't been very social for some time now. I have lost touch with the 2 girls that I've known basically my whole life. That was my own fault. I have been fighting the battle with depression for many years now. There are long periods of time where I barely had the energy to make it through the day. And honestly didn't want to be bothered. I would let calls go to voicemail but rarely returned their calls. And turned down invites to everything. And then when I did feel up to socializing I didn't call either of them. Not that I didn't want to. I just knew I hadn't been even a decent friend to them. I was what I call a "toxic friend". And felt that it would be better for them if I didn't drag them down with all my sucky emotions. There are lots of time that I wish I hadn't pushed them away because I do miss them. I just don't know how to be a friend to anyone anymore. I am stuck in this funk. I know I need to get out and do things that I used to enjoy. It is hard. And even harder since I don't have a friend to hang out with.
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Oct 27, 2009, 09:06 PM
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  (((Manda)))My irl friends have four legs.  I hope you figure it out . Let me know when you do.
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#8
Oct 28, 2009, 10:41 AM
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so what's the point in trying to make them. i think you need to answer this question for yourself Manda... if you feel lonely, then that is all the reason you need to make friends... consider the person you are trying to make friends with... are they truly someone who you share common interests with? have they displayed an interest in continuing a friendship with you? they will need to have such an interest in order to fulfill their own role as a friend/partner choose people who understand the importance of personal health, they willguide yo towards your own and you will learn from them the answers you have now about what a true friend really is and does |
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#9
Oct 28, 2009, 02:16 PM
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Some people definitely have an inborn talent for making friends and it comes very easily for them. Others, such as myself, are completely lacking in that talent.
Making friends may always be a significant challenge for you. It's possible you may need to make extra effort in order to make even the smallest progress. Do you think you can really push yourself in that direction? Or not? Only you know the answer.
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#10
Oct 28, 2009, 03:10 PM
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(((((((((((((((( manda )))))))))))))))))
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