No Chrismas :(

my mom is crying its making me sad my mom is sad because we are going to miss chrismas what we dont have a tree decoration or anything because we were planing on already being moved and have chrismis there but we have not because we have no money at all. There is no were to walk in the house because there is boxis every were literly every were I dont want enything for chrismas just for my mom to be happy but she has it in her mind that with out a tree and decoration and presents shes a fallier shes sad because this never happen ever and now that my grandma is gone and cant be here for here she just doesnt no what to do i feel like its my falt because i cant help i dont no what to do i just want to go to sleep and not wake up EVER again

Sorry things are so hard, redredblueblue. Your mom needs you.

I think the important thing is that the two of you are together for Christmas. I know this may sound silly, but do you have a house plant that you could decorate and use as a tree?

I did this one year when I didn't have the money to buy a tree. It was kind of neat.

It sounds like your house is really cluttered right now. You must be glad that you still have your computer up and running with everything else packed.

Maybe you can write a story about good memories that you have with your Grandma and you can read it to your Mom on Christmas. That way, she will be there with you.

Thanks i will try that

i had no money one year and my little babies were 3 and 4 years old. i wanted so badly to make christmas for them. so i went to the christmas tree stand as asked the man if i could have the clippings he had trimmed from the trees people were buying. i tol dhim i didn't have money to buy a tree but wanted to make it special for my boys. we had been abdoned by their father and life was hard. but, i was grateful to have life.
anyway, the man was so nice that he not only gave me the clippings, but he gave me a little tiny scrub looking tree. it barely had a nice shape, was nearly missing one whole side, but you know that was the prettiest little christmas tree i had ever had. i think the fact that it was so ugly and sparse made it pretty. i decorated it with paper chains we made, little candy canes, and a string of lights. it was beautiful. and i've never forgottan it either.
i believe in the spirit of christmas. christ was born to this world on that day to show us how to love and be loved. he gave his life for us so that we might have eternal life. i believe in the hope of christmas and i believe that love is stronger than anything else. if you have to go out and clip a branch from a tree, or pick up a dead tree limb off the ground that has fallen and decorate it. it's what's in your heart that matters.
much love and hugs, shelley

Or stack a few of your lighter boxes in the shape of a tree???

Following Elysium's wisdom, you and your mom could be creative, and that creativity might give birth to some very special holiday memories.

The real meaning of Christmas is the birth of Jesus and not the colossol money drainer it's become. You don't need a tree or gifts to really celebrate it. What matters most is you being content with your mom. Tell her that you don't mind if there aren't gifts or a tree and what you want most of all, is for her to feel at peace on Xmas. It sounds like your Grandmother made Christmas special and she wouldn't want you and your mom to be sad. I also like the plant idea and you could even string some popcorn and make handmade decorations. Christmas is truly in your heart.

As a mom, I understand her tears. We want for our children not to want for things and sometimes we forget that the best thing we can give them is ourselves and love. My children, too, say they don't care if there isn't money for Christmas, and though I know and celebrate the real reason for Christmas, it breaks my heart to think they will get up on Christmas morning with nothing under the tree. But whether it's under the tree or not, it's in your heart---your love for your mother is immense, as I'm sure hers is for you. Whether you decorate a plant, your computer or a box or nothing, celebrating your togetherness is a wonderful gift from and to each of you. I'm so sorry your mom is sad, for I know what it feels like to feel as if you are a failure if you can't give your children gifts, but it sounds to me as if she's already given you the best gift ever--the ability to know it's not about material things, her love, your respect and your caring, kind heart.

Awwww...sweetie...( I'm from the south...we call everyone sweetie.. )

I do know what your going thru...I don't have a tree or anything either because I just can't afford one. I'm rather glad I'm alone this year as it doesn't seem to matter right now.

BUT, I have also had tight Christmases with my daughter and she is now 25 and just told me the other night how her favorite memory of one of our holiday's was the one where we had to MAKE something for each other. I went on the computer and made a calender with all the wonderful reasons she was my daughter and added some funny pictures to it. SHE made me out of things around the house, a coffee can with wrapping paper around it and a bow, and in the can was a flower she had dug up from my garden so I could " have a little garden inside". She took marbles from the fish tank and put them on top...it was the best thing she ever gave me. Another of her fav things to do together was to make cinnimon rolls from the can, God love her!! and eat them on Christmas morning.

I don't have a tree..but I did put some lights up around the doorway and found my tablecloth for the table, and went to family dollar and found a few odds and ends and just put that around. It brightened my day, and at least I feel "christmasy". It doesn't take much...

Please don't feel guilty....we as parents DO understand and it's not your fault!! Everyone is having a rough time this year, and maybe knowing your not the only one in the great wide will help just a tad. Can you and your mom maybe go to a church service together? It may even give you the chance to meet some of your new nieghbors? Can you help mom just maybe get some unpacking done as a way of helping and making it a type of present to her?

She is also going to be sad simply because she is missing her mom to. It's hard for us as adults to realise we are at the top of the ladder now...and just as one day you'll realise your on your own with out your mom.....she is going thru it now. All you can do sweetie is tell her you love her NO MATTER WHAT and that next year will be different and a bit less hectic. Try to help by keeping a sense of humor about all the boxes and unpacking with her and maybe you can pull a smile from her, which will make YOU feel happier to!! My daughter would make a crack on the order of " gee Mom...don't you think we have enough to UNPACK with out adding silly presents to the mess? " Somthing like that would have made me think. " she might have a point. "

Sometimes....laughter and making fun of it all...is the best medicine. And it doesn't hurt to try!

((((((redredblueblue22)))))
I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. Do you have any decorations that haven't been packed up or that you could easily access that you could place out? Or do you have some arts and crafts that you could use to decorate?

I hope you and your mom feel better soon.

will i spent the day moving all the packed boxes for the new house to the basement to or house looks decent and i found some chrismas decorations so iv decorate im feeling a little better now and im going to try out the idea finding a branch thats like a chrismis twig and decorat that im feeling better now but exasted

I am so glad that you are taking these positive steps for yourself and your Mom during Christmas time. Just your wonderful attitude is gift enough for your Mom. She can be very proud.

(((((((((redredblueblue))))))))) I now in your situtation it might be hard to take to heart what people are saying. I mean, I'm here typing on my computer and you might be having to borrow one for all I know. You have some wonderful beautiful posts for you this Christmas. I only wish that I could walk in and leave you with the making s fo a big dinner and a wonderfull tree and all that. I can wish and pray for you, For a safe, warm Christmas and stretch up to when you can move into the new place. For peace and joy for you and your mom. for guidance for you while she feels so badly. For hope, which seems to be kind of thin on the ground where you are. And also for God's love and healing for both of you. HHHHUUUUUGGGS, dear ones.