[sullivans1981]

My boyfriend lost his wife in June. She was shot by the man that she was cheating on him with. We have been dating for three months or so. He is just now getting depressed. He thought he was ready to move on but now he wants to take things slower. I understand that and he wants me to wait on him because he says we have a future. He says that this will make us stronger. How can I help him get over this depression before it comes between us

He is grieving. No one knows how long that process will take. As far as helping him, perhaps you might want to Google grieving. There are many articles on the subject.

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, Sullivans1981!

My deep regrets - this is a many-sided tragic story. You may find additional help in the following forums:
Relationships & Communication
Grief and Loss
Post-traumatic Stress

[sullivans1981]

i need some help ya'll

[amante]

Sullivan,
the best thing you can do for your boyfriend right now is to be there for him as he needs you to be, caring, loving, supportive, patient, giving, if he needs to slow things down, show him that it's ok, and you'll be there when the time is right. Help him with the depression by understanding depression, depression has many many faces. Allow him all the grief time that he needs, if your love is meant to be, your love will get you through this tragic event. Best wishes.

[Tamale]

Sounds like your boyfriend may need counseling and a friend more than a girlfriend right now. And 3 months sounds like a rather short amount of time to know you have a future together, especially if he is dealing with such a complicated situation. But I believe you can really care about a person even if you have only met them once and if you are willing, I think your bf could just use some support.
I hope that you can support him and give him the time/space he needs. I think others have given you some good links and info on grieving and relationships, maybe the best thing you can do is point him in that direction. When someone is depressed or grieving, it's hard for them to point themselves in the right way.

I hope that you also have some support for yourself, as you are in what I would call maybe a bit of an awkward situation. We are here, you should keep us posted.
*hugs*