First thread here. Need some real input: Crisis call Yoohooo!!! Scared of doing this. No one will answer? Really depressed to the point of being frozen. Had made plans to get back home. Son holds all my money to do this- he promised he'd get me cross country, I even had housing set up.
Lease is up here, can't breathe here(COPD), daughter was moderating-son and i don't get along-he's nasty and unkind-then; out of the blue: I have to go and live in a place he wants me to live in or not move at all (a house he plans on buying in the countryside of another state). Daughter is going along with him. I'd be all alone, very cold there, high altitude, totally controlled by son--in a house. Therapist says "NO!" called Domestic Abuse counselors here--"No, don't do it"--but I have no where to go, no money to move, and there is no where here i can live. Must get back home, need the Social Services of home, need excellent Medical care there, need home, need a studio apartment of home-too old for a house.
Scared, depressed, completely alone out here, only have my disability checks. Thankful for that. My old dog is dying a little more every day.
Anyone? Told kids "Goodbye" last night. Shrink in NY told me "Your children are Toxic to you-remember that". Totally Bereft--true.

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((((((((((Theodora))))))))))))

I wanted to send you my support, today I am short on words, but I wanted to let you know your not alone, and I"m sending peaceful thoughts to you.

Best Wishes
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[Rohag]

I am sorry Theodora Gentle hugs to you.

The first thing that comes to mind is to contact 211.org (United Way/Alliance for Information and Referral Systems; call 2-1-1 in the US). Of course, you may have already done that indirectly through your counselors (or maybe not - no one counselor knows everything).

Here's my initial attempt to construct a "Theodora's Situation for Dummies," an easy-to-assimilate presentation of what's up:

• Older woman of compromised health on disability - COPD, PTSD, MDD, GAD
• Currently living in _______ for X years/months, but conditions (especially high altitude) exacerbate COPD
• Had planned to move back to _______, had housing set up there
• Hostile son controls all (other?) funds (why?)
• He insists she move to a house in _______ - another cold, high-altitude area with limited medical accessibility - or not move at all
• The woman's psychiatrist, therapist and domestic abuse counselors strongly advise her not to move to son's choice of location
• Current lease is almost up and no where to go

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((((((((((((((((Theodora)))))))))))))))
Your therapist didn't have any suggestions for you knowing your situation other than not move?Maybe they would know of some services available to you.

Fantastic Presentation, Rohag!, Ya got me laughing at my whole situation!!!
You are an absolute MARVEL!!!!! I'm going to figure this out somehow--it's Lost Vegas (they got 2 chickens at the Zoo here-and The Liberace Museum!!!-ain't hat some great cultcha?)--I got sand in my lungs along with all the asbestos from volunteering at Ground Zero on 9/11--hate the dry heat here--and I wanna go back to NYC-and catch a bus to the Guggenheim, The Whitney, The Cloisters, The Botanic Gardens, See my Doctor at Mount Sinai, I wanna go home where i don't need a car- I want to smell the artistic fervor in the air, the ocean, even the garbage where I lived for over half a century, walk the Brooklyn Bridge again, the Promenade in the rain,
The cobblestones, The architecture, the brownstones, ohhh I miss it soo-4 years out here in the desert-, I trusted him at the closing table with the proceeds of the sale of my house--500,000.00 NYC property...now worth 5times that-to come here to help him through his divorce and custody battle--he got primary custody of my grandson and took off with the money--i was still in a PTSD stupor--stupid stupor---

My own fault--it's gone- false expectations-- all false--son has no integrity.

He wants me to move up to PA--up by the Catskills- rural-a house he wants to "invest in"---I should do it- and break everything in it- then take off

That'd show him.
Bust all the pipes up, turn off the cicuit breaker and cut all the wiring to shreds, dismantle the hot water heater, the boiler, etc etc.

nope, i'm not that kinda person. get over myself

but you got me laughing at myself--

Thank you so very much Rohag!!! you are the bestest!!!--brooklyn girl (theo)

Thanks Horsecab--nope, currently have use of a female Psychologist, who's words of wisdom seem to exist in a vacuum- she writes good letters for me to keep my dog.
"Service Dog" etc. but, seems to think everything will just magically work out,
knows my history, I imitated the way my daughter talks to me (daughter is 32) one day,
and my therpist lept out of her chair and was gonna run out the door she got so scared. Guess she figures I can handle anything--so tired of being so "strong"-theo

Also, Lost Vegas is a city of debauchery- eat, drink, have sex, gamble, buy things-that's about all there is to do here--Social services and really good medical are gotten with cash---good doctors do not accept insurance of any kind--
Not even from the WTC Monitoring Program-----

I ain't into any of that stuff-oh there is one good thing- no fleas live here!lol

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Sounds like NYC is just waiting for you to come home Theo...I hope everything works out so you can do what YOU want to do.... good luck

Has your son been appointed your guardian and conservator by a court of law? If not, how does he have control of your money and the authority to make decisions for you?

[lynn P.]

((Theo)) - sorry I don't have any genius solutions at the moment. Just stopped to give you some hugs.

Hi Byzantine-answer is that I was stupid in NY when I closed on house, was very stressed-lawyer (another crooked creep) advised me to put the money in one of my kids names---i did it-the checks were all made out to my son at the closing table.
No way to get the money back, as it was a verbal agreement=civil litgation=no lawyer would take it on because there was no proof that i hadn't just given the money to him. So stupid.....
He doesn't have the power to make decisions for me--but he has the power of the money to hold me back from doing what i need and want to do==money=POWER==ugly mess

Hi Lynn! How's Bella?--been praying for her (((Lynn))) (((Bella)))-thanks for the hugs--------need all i can get----it goes as it goes----theo