[humors1]

im even having a hard time writing here. I am so alone with my mental illness, I have no friends...my husband says get over it, he doesnt know what to do...I just want to stay in bed. At night I cant sleep but during the day I cant get up....I've screamed but i have no voice, I cry and have no tears...I dont think I have ever been this low ever before

Hello, humors1. Sorry you are not feeling well. Take a look at this site: http://dmh.dc.gov/dmh/cwp/view,a,3,q,641014.asp

It may be worth a shot to call the various places (NAMI first) to see if you are eligible for assistance. You might want to ask about online therapy if travel is a problem. Also ask about medications.

Good luck.

[susan888]

(((Humors1)))

I can relate. I have the same issue with my husband when the depression overwhelms me. Maybe he is just afraid because he can't make it better. My husband takes it personally...like he isn't doing enough to make me happy. Regardless...it's a very, very lonely feeling. I feel very blessed to have found this site and all of the support I have received here that I can't get in real life.

[garden]

Humors1, Just when you believe you're OK it sneaks back as a warning that there's yet another place unresolved to give thought. My husband was adverse to the need for T initially. He is my biggest supporter with a "hug" radar or "danger will robinson" siren. It took years for him to understand and in that time I cried as you are. Hang in there. Check out the link that Byz provided and treat yourself well.

[sugahorse1]

Getting your partner to understand and support is both the most important and hardest thing you can do. Give him some literature.
At the same time, your happiness is your responsibility and comes from you. If you cannot cope and feel you need medication, don't feel shy or guilty to set up an appointment with a doctor for an evaluation and script. You sometimes need to be selfish and at all times remember you do come first. You first need to get YOU right before you can contribute towards a healthy relationship.
Give your husband some literature to read (There's plenty on the internet you can download). Sometimes having a professional diagnosis makes it easier for the other person to accept that you "aren't making it up" but that there really is a chemical imbalance and you are seeking help to rectify it.

[SophiaG]

iIt seems like a lot of men want to play the tough macho card and say 'suck it up". I think I've read that statistically less men get help for depression than women. Don't let him play this card on you, you just go and get the help you need ok?

[humors1]

That is exactly how I feel and how my husband is....i didnt know other peoplee were in this place. Thank you

[humors1]

Thank you...I cant believe others feel like me

[humors1]

I have a pretty bad psyc. history and am on meds that is why this scares me being so low...I completely agree about happiness but it is hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel right now

[humors1]

I really appreciate the feedback...thank you for your time to write back.