[imnoangel512]

My husband and I have been married for 18 years. We have had our ups and downs, good times and bad and argued a lot during that time to the point that our 17 year old son and 16 year old daughter told us both that they are unhappy and want my husband and I to separate. I knew my husband had not been happy for a long time (10 years to be exact) but I never knew why.

3 years prior to my children saying they wanted us to separate (July 2007), my husband went through a bought of depression (but I didn't know it was that at the time). Out of the blue told me that he wasn't happy, he didn't love me and he wanted a divorce. So I moved out 8 months later. We drew up the divorce papers, signed them but never filed. After a few months he started feeling guilty and said he missed me and we started to see each other again. I moved back in a year later. I am still on that mood roller coaster with him and the downs have been more than the ups. He snaps at me and the kids for every little bitty thing, blames me for our arguements. I tried to get him to go get help but he refused. He would make himself go to work everyday but as soon as he got home, he would lock himself in our bedroom for hours at a time either laying in the bed or up on the computer looking at porn. He wasn't eating or sleeping well and it finally got to him 3 weeks ago when he lost so much weight and was so tired that he finally went to the doctor. The doctor said that he was suffering from anxiety and depression and some kind of bacteria that was affecting his stomach. He came to me a few days ago and said that he was not happy and being unhappy was killing him. He said that he was going to move out and wants a divorce again. This is devastating because I still love him and know that it is the depression talking. What should I do? Let him go? Fight to keep him? Had I known this was going to happen again I would have never moved back in, now I have to put my kids and myself through the same emotional turmoil that happened 2 years ago.

[imnoangel512]

please i need advice

[manu-la71]

I am pretty much in the same boat like you, we just going through a divorce and he goes back and for. I am not sure how it will go on but putting yourself always through such tough times isn't good.
I hope you will find an answer soon.

imnoangel512, most states recognize a legal separation. The property and debt is divided. The court determines custody, support and visitation too. The idea is to give the couple some time to work a reconciliation. If the court is not informed of a reconciliation within a specified time (a year in my state), the divorce becomes final.

Just a thought.
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