[dawnhopeful]

I finally got to see my Psychiatrist. I had it out with him. I told him what i didn't like about him. He replied that if I wanted to see someone else, it is alright with him. What he didnt like about me is how changeable my moods are. So does this mean he cant cope with me and that I should find someone who can? How can I trust him to judge when I need new meds? I said that i didn't like how passive he was. He said that he is trying not to give long explanations of things with his patients. I would find that my mind would wander during these long speeches. What i want is for someone to emotionally connect with. Am I asking for too much from a Doctor? I have a feeling that to discuss sex with a female Dr. ,would be much easier for me.
At least i got something off my chest with him!
dawnhopeful

[madisgram]

hummm that was an interesting converation with your pdoc. perhaps looking for a new one might help. i find i need to feel like my pdoc is hearing me..if you know what i mean...and cares how i "feel".
that part where he said he didn't like how "changeable" your moods were...was he expressing concern or criticizing?

[Rohag]

Hello, Dawnhopeful!

Originally Posted by dawnhopeful

I finally got to see my Psychiatrist. I had it out with him.

Good! Very good.

Originally Posted by dawnhopeful

What he didnt like about me is how changeable my moods are.

Huh?! Your moods and their volatility are important data; they're not to be "liked" or "disliked" but noted and analysed. (Just my opinion...)

Originally Posted by dawnhopeful

Am I asking for too much from a Doctor?

No! Certainly not.

Here's wishing you a doctor who uniquely suits you.

[Travelinglady]

I suspect most of us who have been on this mental-illness treadmill for a good while have run into at least one p-doc who doesn't seem to be a good fit for us. (Note that I'm the one who started the "shrink" joke thread.) I have "fired" a p-doc and even been "fired" by one myself. Sigh.

The key questions, I think, to ask yourself are: Do I trust this guy? Do I feel comfortable that he has my best interest at heart? At the bottom line, does he seem to be a competent p-doc who keeps up with the literature and who is trying to understand my uniqueness as a patient?

Sad to say, the way the mental-health world is set up, p-docs are basically medicine dispensers. Most of them might muddle through a fifteen-minute session with us and then decide what, if anything, to do about our drugs. They aren't generally of the mindset that they are "therapists." Therefore, I personally see a p-doc and a therapist (psychiatric social worker.) They work in the same office, so they can talk about my case and share their input with each other. I'm finding it to be an effective treatment approach.

Good luck, whatever you decide about retaining him as your mental-health doctor.