[User42]

I recently lost my job, I've only just started the hunt for a new one but so far haven't heard back from anywhere, and if it's anything like the last time i'll be rejected a lot, and even more often just be ignored.

I don't have a few friends and I rarely see them, say once a month at best. Most of my emails are either ignored or very delayed in response. I'd call, but I don't like to bother people. I feel like calling is demanding someone's attention.

I also have no love life, never have had a girlfriend ever. This hasn't changed at all, just constantly get me down. I don't have much chance to meet girls because I don't go out much as I don't see my friends much and don't like ot go out alone. I try online dating sites but most first contacts are ignored and those that aren't ignored are just polite rejections.

I see my parents maybe once a week, which might sound frequent but it wasn't long ago I was living with them, so it's not what I' used to.

I tried to reconnect with people I used to know on Facebook, most ignore my friend request, others accept it but never say anything to me or reply to me.

I feel like nobody wants me to exist.

[Frumpola]

i feel that way alot. just go out, meet new people in restoraunts or just go and be yourself. we will all find someone

[Miracle1986]

We want you to exist...

[sadface]

What kinds of things are you interested in? What are you good at? If you aren't working right now why not try volunteering? It sounds to me like you have just made a major move....out on your own and of course there will be an adjustment time. Use this time to explore who you are what you like. Posting on this site is a good thing too. Hope this helps...you do matter and you are here for a reason so finding those reasons are part of making life worth living.

[sunsetsunrise]

User42, I am so sorry you are feeling so alone and abandoned. do you have a therapist or counseler you talk with? I hope so. Glad you are here at pc. people here will talk to you for sure.

[BonjourChat87]

Dude, I feel the same way. Except for the part about not wanting to bother people. How I see it is, is if they don't want to call me then I don't need to call them. I mean, if I'm the one who always has to call then there's no point. Plus all my friends have been busy getting themselves impregnated and I'm stayin' far away from that if u know what I mean. That kinda thing is contagious. N e way, I WISH I was in ur shoes. I had a boyfriend and he turned out to be a total psycho stalker freak. It took me 2 1/2 years to get AWAY from him and I still have to look behind my back every day. People suck majorly. They're just out to use u for sex or money or something equally asinine. I've given up. Plus no one wants me n e way. And I NEVER see my friends. I see my sister once a month and the only time I talk to her on the phone she's talking about how depressed SHE is. You are not alone. I feel like there's no point to existence sometimes too.

[enajmil]

Hi User42

I'm going through the same feelings you are. Although I am in a great relationship and do have friends, I am constantly plagued by loneliness and I feel like my friends aren't close to me anymore. Sometimes I feel like it would be less painful to just not have any friends to begin with than to have superficial relationships that just disappoint you.

I know you may think that your situation is a lot worse, and I'm not here to tell you that it's not. But loneliness and feeling alone/sad/upset/rejected can happen to anyone - even those who have it all. I don't have any solutions yet to anything, but I just want you to know that you're not alone.

One thing that I did take up was writing a journal entry each time I felt upset or sad. It's more so for myself to help ease any negative emotion I may be overcome with at the moment. It doesn't solve anything of course, but it does help. Sometimes I find myself trying to coach my way out of the funk in my journal and I give myself hope. Another thing I do is to try and think of things from an outside perspective. If someone I care about was going through what I was, what would I say to them?

I hope things do get better for you and just know you're not alone. You are important! You just need to find your place in this world and create your own niche. In the meantime try and stay positive and try volunteering so you can meet other people and involve yourself in something you love. It helps.

[griffenfirefly69]

Hi alone isn't it something that so many people feel the same way. It makes it easier for all of us to group together and not feel alone. I'm glad you found this site just like me and now we can visit and not be alone together. I keep telling myself that it's just the weather, or the sign of the moon but really I don't know why I feel alone I just do.

[buggedbybugs]

send me a friend request on facebook, ill accept it.. sebringxxxlovr thats my facebook nic.. i dont go on it much, just to play mafia wars.its hard to meet people on facebook,myspace, they always want just one night stands, and im looking for a friend, you know?

[lonegael]

Facebook is hopeless for actually connecting if you aren't actually still talking. even people I am otherwise on good terms with only send me Farmville notices for the most part, like "Duh, if I want to pet cow, I'll walk 100 yards and pet a real one, thanks" It'd lick me back, too, beat that!

People aren't saying they'd rather you not exist, they are just too caught up in their own lives. That's why sometimes you have to be just a tad pushy and make that call, talk for a bit, invite a firend out, etc. Someone has to break the holding pattern, and sometimes that someone is going to have to be you. Can you accept that sometimes it's not going to pan out? Or that sometimes it's going to be hard to restat a friendship? Then I think you can do it. Right now you've taken a lot of blows and it's easy to be frustrated and isolate yourself and believe that noone would want to hear from you. Try to imagine, you are doing some of them a favor, because i really believe, you will be doing just that! HUGGGGSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!