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Dec 27, 2010, 03:49 PM
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My perfectionism is getting the best of me lately. I need to lose weight....do this, do that. I inwardly criticize every flaw. Speaking very harshly to self, saying things like I'm not ever going to be good enough.
I know CBT might help but I haven't done it in forever. All this negative talk has pulled me back into the black cloud of depression. I feel worthless. and i'm not sure what to do about it.
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Dec 27, 2010, 05:59 PM
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Hello, Cherrygash321!
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Depression (and aging) undermines my ability to be focused and disciplined. Techniques that depend on my focus and self-discipline are doomed to failure. My meds probably dull the intensity of my mood, and they slow me down, further undermining focus and discipline. Are you in any type of similar situation, where some aspects of your treatment work against other aspects? Your caretakers need to know. Thank you for posting, Cherrygash. Thank you for participating here. 
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Dec 27, 2010, 06:05 PM
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Hi CherryGash,
I can relate. My perfectionism isn't pretty ~ it only hurts, yet I hold tightly onto this tendency. My T's style isn't CBT. He uses a variety of all styles. Depending upon what we're talking about, he may lean towards some CBT techniques. Another time, he uses other styles. That seems to work well for me. As there are things from each style of therapy that I can appreciate, but that doesn't make me lean towards any one particular style of therpay. Whatever you believe is the answer ~ DBT, CBT, one-to-one... ~ will work for you. That is one benefit to being a perfectionist. When we commit to something, we hold true to the very end! That's the lighter side of being a perfectionist 
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Dec 27, 2010, 07:11 PM
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Yes, my meds work against me in similar ways. For a long time they were dulling my emotions. (so was drinking) Ive been clean a year. Im changing meds right now so feelings, depression, anxiety have all come to the surface. My new med is suppose to make you gain weight. I have other side effects from diff. meds as well. I have a major issue with motivation. I've actually kinda let myself go b/c of the depression, then i go after myself with judgement and belittling.
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Dec 27, 2010, 07:20 PM
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This is such an interesting topic. I really didn't think much about it until I read this really great blog here on PC that talks about the various things that are part of perfectionism. It really made me stop and think!
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...perfectionism/ |
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Dec 27, 2010, 07:36 PM
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