[joliette]

I play a sport, the first sport Ive ever really played (besides one year of softball when I was in the 4th grade, we lost every game)... Every practice I end up angry at myself because I do not think i am good enough. Im jealous of other people who get team awards and kudos, and feel like I do not get anything..even my two mvp awards last season do not seem to validate how "good" i am..at least not to me. Any tips on how to kick this bad attitude and start learning from my mistakes. I do not need to be the star of the team but I want to be recognized for my skills.. is that wrong of me to want?

[Leed]

Well, jeez ~ you got 2 MVP awards last season !! That should tell you something! LOL Remember that you are on a TEAM -- it's supposed to be a TEAM effort -- not a Joliette effort. Perhaps if it's recognition that you want, you should go into individual sports - such as tennis, or cross-country, or something like that where YOU are competing against someone else. Some people just don't handle working on a team well. There's nothing wrong with that I guess. But remember that in life and in the outside world, you HAVE to be able to deal with teamwork. just a thought. Hugs, Lee

[HalfSwede]

I guess I've had similar experiences playing in bands, where I often feel like I could have played a solo better, or played a more interesting backing part, or looked better onstage, or something else. It sounds like a pretty typical inner critic problem. I'm not sure yet how to stop saying things like that to myself. I guess I should just remember that one show is just one show, and for you one game is one game. I think it's great that you're getting out there and doing it, and I hope you keep it up!