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#1
Apr 09, 2011, 01:24 AM
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I should learn to be happy with who i am. But. Cant trying to fit in and be popular make me happier? Even if its lieing to the world.
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Apr 09, 2011, 11:45 AM
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Everyone wants to fit in and be popular, but you can't do it if you're trying to be something that you're not. If you aren't being yourself, then it's all a lie. If people can't accept you for the way you are, they aren't worth your trouble.
I wanted to be "popular" in school too ~ but the "in" crowd was doing things that I didn't believe in ~ like getting drunk, smoking weed, and having sex. If that's what you had to do to be popular, I didn't want any part of it. Stay true to yourself. There's only one YOU. Hugs, Lee |
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Apr 09, 2011, 12:47 PM
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often ppl feel peer pressure to be liked. i think it is more important to live by your own principals and values. it's ok to be different rather than following the pack. be your beautiful self!!!
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Apr 12, 2011, 11:19 AM
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Sadgirl98, where would you like to fit in? Do you want to fit into school in general, or into some specific activity or social group?
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Apr 12, 2011, 11:26 AM
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Learn how to be a good friend. It's also important to be assertive when necessary. Walk and talk with confidence...be true to yourself and eventually you'll find friends. I agree the popular crowd, usually are mean and doing bad things. I preferred to march to the beat of my own drum and if people wanted to follow, they were welcome. It can be a mean world in school now a days and resilience is an asset. Good self esteem is key and don't strive to be perfect.
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Apr 12, 2011, 01:40 PM
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The trouble with pretending to be someone other than who you are in order to be liked is that, sooner or later, you realise that it's not YOU that they like and you end up feeling even more alone and generally bad about yourself. It doesn't work. Plus it's hard to keep up for long periods (its very exhausting) and sooner or later you pay the emotional price for it. If you can learn to accept yourself NOW rather than later, it will be easier on you in the long run.
Just my opinion though, for what it's worth. Take care *hugs* |
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Apr 12, 2011, 03:31 PM
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Quote:
 ) A good cook? Writer? Athlete? Friend?For me, the tough part is being happy with my introversion in a world that doesn't seem to value it very much. I'm trying to turn it to my advantage. That seems to be where the whole good listener thing comes in -- not talking a lot can sometimes be a good thing, apparently. I won't say you're guaranteed to find a huge crowd to belong to once you're true to yourself, but it's a lot of work to keep up a lie. |
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Apr 12, 2011, 08:42 PM
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